Opinion: All Relationships Should End While They’re Still Good — Here’s Why

Relationships might be a lot of work, but you should never let them reach the point where they’re a burden. I often recommend putting a pause on your relationship while you’re still happy and in love. It may sound like a crazy idea, but consider these things and you’ll see what I mean.

  1. It’s better to have good memories to look back on. It’s much nicer to reminisce about fond memories than to let the relationship get to the point where you forget why you loved that person in the first place. Love is both painful and beautiful, but you should never let your relationship get to the point where you look back with regret or bitterness.
  2. You don’t want to end up resenting each other. It’s an awful feeling to resent someone you used to love. If you feel like you should press pause on your relationship, trust your gut! Don’t let your feelings toward your S.O. turn sour because you didn’t speak up. Your intuition is your best friend when it comes to relationships. The love you share with your partner is so special, it’s important to always keep it that way.
  3. If something feels not quite right, don’t let it get worse. You’ll regret forcing something that you aren’t 100% sure about. Things will only go from unsure to downright unhappy. Leaving things on a friendly note is much better than letting uncertain feelings ruminate to the point of no return. If there’s hope to reconnect, you have to end things while they’re going well.
  4. You don’t want your relationship to go down in flames. Pushing any irresolute feelings aside will only make things much messier and emotionally taxing. A healthy relationship means you feel comfortable enough to communicate about your hesitation, so don’t let it get unhealthy by bottling everything up.  If you wait to speak your mind until everything comes crashing down, you might just end up wishing that you had parted ways sooner.
  5. You can support each other through the heartbreak. Breakups are always going to be devastating, but if they’re amicable, you actually have the amazing opportunity to help each other through the pain. Going through a breakup can feel super lonely when you no longer have your number one confidant to lean on. If you stop dating on good terms, you can still be each other’s rock. There’s nothing wrong with staying best friends and helping each other out.
  6. Amicable breakups are hard, but messy breakups are harder. It’s hard to move on when you still love the person you were with, but it’s harder to heal if you’re overwhelmed with hatred. To put it simply, it’s cleaner to be angry, but it’s healthier to be grateful. Take a cue from the best love stories; they always end while both parties are still passionately in love.
  7. If you love something, let it go. The famous saying is true. Feeling trapped or trapping someone else is never going to end happily. If you break up while things are still relatively good, you’ll either realize the beauty of what you had, or you’ll realize that you’re better apart. Either way, you’ll discover what you really want, and you won’t have any doubt about it. Doubt is the greatest enemy to any relationship.
  8. Falling out of love is the worst feeling of all. In my opinion, you shouldn’t let your relationship get to the point where you no longer look at your partner with love and admiration. No breakup is easy, but I think that losing the romance is much harder to handle emotionally than breaking up while still in love.
  9. It is possible to come back together, stronger than ever. If you act on a hunch and take time apart, you might actually be glad you stepped away. Sometimes both of you need time to mature away from each other. You’ll have a much better chance of coming back together in the future, and for your relationship to succeed in the long run. Isn’t a break now worth your eventual happiness in the future?
  10. If you’re meant to be together, you will be. Sometimes it’s important to leave the fate of your relationship up to the universe. Trust that if you’re really meant to be with your partner, it’ll happen. If you aren’t, it won’t. Forcing something to work, even if you’re madly in love, is never a good idea. It’s much better to end it while things are going relatively well and give you both a chance to grow and potentially come back together when the time is right.
If Giselle wasn’t a writer, she would probably be a sea nymph from Greek Mythology, a permanent resident in an Art Nouveau painting, or a professional exotic fruit taster. You can find her on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thecellophaneflower/.