Are Virtual One-Night Stands Worth It?

It’s been frustrating to date during the COVID-19 pandemic because sometimes those long texting convos filled with flirtatious words can only go so far. What if you want to spice things up by having a virtual one-night stand? Should you go ahead? While getting your freak on digitally can be a great idea, here are some things to consider.

  1. Figure out what you want. What level of intimacy are you looking for? You might want to meet someone on a dating app and go straight for the online hook-up or you might want to build a conversation (and maybe even a connection!) first. Be sure of what you want from this arrangement so that you get it.
  2. Practice makes perfect. Virtual one-night-stands can be a bit awkward if you’ve never done them before. It might sound weird, but it’s a good idea to practice ahead of time when you don’t have the guy’s face and body on the screen in front of you. Pleasure yourself and see what you like. You’ll want to be able to get yourself off during a virtual one-night stand after all, so prioritize your pleasure!
  3. Consider watching yourself. Now, this might sound vain, but it’s not meant to be. When having a virtual one-night stand, you might worry about how you look on the screen. The last thing you need is to worry about that during the act as it’ll suck your joy. If it is a concern, try getting steamy on your own while watching or recording yourself. This might be cringy, but it’ll help you to get used to the idea of a virtual one-night stand so you don’t ruin it with your self-consciousness.
  4. Send each other hot links. It can really help you to deal with any potential awkwardness by sharing hot pics or videos of things that turn you on with the person you’re keen on having a virtual hookup with. This will also help you to get things going.
  5. Think about your privacy. If you don’t know the person that you’re keen on having a virtual hookup with, it’s really important to be mindful of your privacy. Don’t share information in written or in picture form about yourself that could be used against you. Be careful with those nudes! You also need to be careful that you’re not being recorded during the hookup. You never know where footage or images of you could end up! This is why it’s probably a good idea to stick to having virtual hookups with people you know.
  6. If you’re really worried about privacy, don’t do video chat. When you have a virtual one-night stand, you might want to refrain from showing your face. That’s cool and all, but it’s probably better (and easier) to just stick to texting and sexting instead of video chats in this case.
  7. Think about your comfort level. Before you decide to have a virtual one-night stand, you really need to think about what you’re comfortable with and what you’re absolutely not comfortable with. It’s important to set some hookup ground rules so that you don’t end up having a cringy, disappointing experience.
  8. Decide how to do it. One of the things that could make virtual one-night stands weird, whether you know the person or not, is how to actually go about them. Are you going to engage in mutual masturbation or are you going to watch each other masturbate? Decide on what you want and communicate this with the other person. The bonus is that talking about it can help to set the right mood. However, talk about it beforehand as you don’t want to waste each other’s time!
  9. Find the right place and time. One of the most important things about virtual one-night stands is that you need to ensure you have privacy. Don’t agree to one if your roommates are going to be home shortly or you have somewhere else to be – you’ll just feel rushed and it’ll totally kill the mood. Set aside enough time and be sure you won’t be distracted during sexy time!
  10. The bonus: you don’t have awkwardness afterward. While a virtual one-night stand takes a bit of planning (and ensuring you have a great internet connection), one of the biggest benefits is that you don’t have to worry about what happens after the hookup. You don’t have to say awkward goodbyes or hint to the guy that he should get dressed and GTFO of your home. Bliss!
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.