Being Dumped Sucks But Knowing My Ex Doesn’t GAF Is Even Worse

Getting my heart broken was pretty bad but my ex made it ten times worse by not doing the bare minimum every guy should when they dump his girlfriend out of the blue: actually acting like he was sorry he hurt me.

  1. I’ve never felt more abandoned. Not only did I get my heart broken but the one person who’s been there for me for the past two years isn’t anymore and I feel completely and utterly alone. This feeling of loneliness and abandonment is something I can’t shake even when I’m surrounded by friends. He’s the cause of it and doesn’t even care.
  2. No one wants to be alone in their darkest hour. I’ve had breakups where we both took the time to talk about it and make each other feel better about things before ending it completely. It’s just a nice thing to do. It doesn’t even matter who did the dumping—it’s painful for everyone involved and it makes it twice as painful when you get dumped and then literally never see or hear from the other person ever again.
  3. He doesn’t even care to explain himself. The right thing to do when you break up with someone is to offer an explanation behind your decision so the other person gets some closure. He owed it to me but didn’t bother giving it. It was really insensitive of him to not care about my feelings especially since he was the one who hurt me.
  4. He’s already moved on—I can tell. What really pains me is that while I’m over here sulking over my broken heart, he’s partying it up, living his life without a care. I should really stop snooping his Instagram, but the wound is just too fresh right now to stop myself. Shouldn’t he be a little bit depressed or even disappointed in himself for being such a huge jerk, breaking up with me and leaving me in the dust? I just can’t believe he’s fine to move on this quickly. Ugh.
  5. Obviously his comfort and freedom is more important than me. I can’t stand the kind of people who don’t clean up their messes. He left me for dead. He was basically just like, “Hey, I can’t do this anymore, peace” and was out the door like that. He didn’t make sure I was okay, didn’t even want to hear my side of things. It wasn’t even a discussion—it was like an announcement and it really hurt.
  6. It made me feel so insignificant. Being abandoned by a lover is one thing; being abandoned AND ignored is another. I feel like a second-class citizen, like he has the upper hand and all the power in this situation. It’s like my opinion on whether or not we should break up never even mattered to him. He didn’t care to hear what I had to say, which made me feel purely like an inconvenience in his life.
  7. He’s the one who hurt me yet he’s not interested in trying to make it better. It just sucks how some people can break up with someone, know that they’re hurting their feelings and not do EVERYTHING they can to make it right. He didn’t even ask for forgiveness. He doesn’t care what I think of him. He probably doesn’t even care if I hate him for the rest of his life. He just wanted out of mine as quickly and as seamlessly as possible.
  8. It makes it that much more difficult to heal. The fact that he isn’t talking to me or returning my messages makes it that much more difficult to get over him. It would be different if we both kinda knew it was going to happen, but he dropped it on me out of nowhere and the least he can do is be available to answer my questions about it.
  9. I saw him on a dating site less than a week later. He told me that he wasn’t ready for a relationship and that he just needs to be alone to “figure himself out.” Well, I’m calling BS because I saw him on a dating site less than a week later. Not only is he avoiding me after the fact but he totally lied to my face. I guess I dodged a bullet? Still super peeved, though.
Jennifer is a playwright, dancer, and theatre nerd living in the big city of Toronto, Canada. She studied Creative Writing at Concordia University and works as a lifestyle writer who focuses on Health, B2B, Tech, Psychology, Science, Food Trends and Millennial Life. She's also a coreographer, playwright, and lyricist, with choreography credits for McMaster University’s “Spring Awakening,” “Roxanne” for the Guelph Contemporary Dance Festival, and “The Beaver Den” for The LOT, among others.

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