I Believed In You & You Ruined Us

Our love story was ripped out of a fairy tale… or at least, it started off that way. Once upon a time, we were truly in love, and I believed we always would be. We had so much potential until you had to go and mess everything up.

  1. I thought you were worth waiting for. When you had to figure things out, I stuck by your side. You went through so many rough patches and I was the shoulder that you leaned on. Every relationship has its problems, but for me, our love was always worth the ups and downs. I thought watching you figure out your life was worth it. God, I was such a fool.
  2. You took me for granted. I put so much effort into our relationship, and one day you just stopped doing your share of the work. I’m a catch and one hell of a girlfriend, but you lost sight of that. You got lazy. You were too comfortable in our relationship to the point where you didn’t feel like you even needed to try, but you did. Is it any surprise you lost me?
  3. I was always there for you. Once upon a time, you were there for me too, but times changed. When you needed me, I was the rock keeping you grounded, but after you got through your depression, you cast this stone aside. When I hit a rough patch of my own, you didn’t have time to be there for me. Once your life was better, you just didn’t need me anymore.
  4. You were only good to me when we were alone. The second we were around other people, it was as if you had to hide your affection for me. When it was just us, you made me feel like I was the only thing that mattered, but in public we were practically just friends — if that. You never wanted anyone else to know you actually cared about me, and to this day I don’t understand why.
  5. You cared more about what others thought than what I thought. My opinion used to be the most important thing in the world to you, but suddenly, that changed. Your friends convinced you that you were too young to settle down, and you eventually let their opinions overshadow your own. You cared so much what other people thought that you let it ruin the amazing love, relationship, and friendship that we had. How could you?
  6. It was as if you matured in reverse. You were more mature the day we started dating than the day we ended things. That’s so sad considering that we were merely teenagers at the start. You were serious about us from day one, but at the end you acted as though the relationship were casual despite us having been together for years. You went from a guy who had his act together to a guy who tore every piece of his life (and mine) apart.
  7. You turned into a person I barely recognized. I planned a future with a man who no longer exists. The man I loved is no longer out there, and that breaks my heart. He was good to me, but you were awful. It’s actually hard to believe that the boy I knew could have turned into the jerk you are now, but believe it or not, that’s exactly what happened. The person you are these days turned one hell of a love story into a total tragedy.
  8. I fought for you, but you just let me go. That’s the hardest part to understand. You once told me you couldn’t imagine life without me. How did you go from that to actually WANTING a life without me? We hit a rough patch and instead of fighting for everything we built, you let it all fall to the ground. You weren’t willing to fight for me. In the end, you just gave up like a coward.
  9. You were so selfish. You never cared about what I needed from the relationship. It was always all about you, you, you. I gave and gave and gave and got so very little in return. You stopped making me a priority in your life; everything and everyone else came first. You made it abundantly clear that my happiness wasn’t even close to being as important as your own.
  10. You stopped believing in us. You gave up on the future we planned together. One day I was your whole world, and the next day I just wasn’t enough. You always said that we could get through anything, but then you ruined everything we built. I believed every word you said and every promise you made but in the end, you stopped believing your own words. I didn’t tear this relationship apart, so don’t blame me — just remember that you’re the one who ruined something amazing.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.