To The Best Boyfriend I’ve Ever Had

I’ve dated men who have made me feel like crap. I’ve dated men that have made me question whether relationships are actually worth it. But now, I’m dating a man that makes me happier than I’ve ever been. Here’s what I’d like to say to the best boyfriend I’ve ever had:

  1. I don’t know how I got so lucky. I shouldn’t consider myself fortunate for having someone who actually listens and sets aside time for me, but when I look at my single friends struggling to find a decent guy, it makes me realize how lucky I am. Some girls would kill for “decent,” but I get perfection.
  2. I don’t need you. You don’t need me, either. We’d be perfectly find on our own, because we’re both intelligent and independent. But I want you and you want me, which is what sets us apart from other couples.
  3. You always go above and beyond. You don’t have to go down on me daily and buy me elaborate gifts for my birthday, but you do. Even though I already have high expectations of you, you still manage to raise the bar each and every day.
  4. You’re helping me become a better person. I see how sweet and smart and talented you are, and it makes me want to do more with my life. I’m actively aiming to improve myself, because I want to feel worthy of your love.
  5. You’re my best friend. I don’t have to choose between my best friends and my boyfriend, because you’re all of those things wrapped up in one. I can laugh with you, cry with you, and have wild sex with you. You give me everything I need and more.
  6. Please don’t let me down. I don’t want to feel obliged to stay with you in the future, just because of our history. I want you to continue to be the amazing boyfriend you are, even after we’ve been married for ten years. I promise I’ll do the same.
  7. I’ve never felt this way before. I’ve never been the type of girl to plan out her wedding or imagine what her future house would look like. But now, I can’t stop those things from crossing my mind. I’m eager to see what the future will bring, and it’s all because of you.
  8. We could really do this. I used to run at the first sign of trouble, but I’m willing to put in effort to make things work with you. If I have it my way, you won’t be going anywhere.
  9. Thank you for helping me realize my worth. I know I’m not supposed to need a man to see how valuable I am, but you’ve helped me learn to love the parts of myself that I never thought I’d accept. I used to criticize myself for anything and everything, but now I push those negative thoughts aside, because you constantly remind me of how amazing I am.
  10. I love you. I try to say it as often as I can, but it’s still not enough. I could never accurately express how much you mean to me. You’ll just have to take my word for it.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.