I Was Born To Be A Career Woman, Not A Wife

I have no interest in spending the rest of my days raising a family or being the perfect wife. I have more important things to do, like becoming a successful career woman.

  1. I always hated playing house. While all the other little girls were playing house and dressing up their dolls, I was selling hand-drawn pictures on the side of the road. I was always about starting my own business, even if that meant spending the weekend manning my lemonade stand while the other kids played baseball. I was always interested in making money and doing something that had purpose behind it.
  2. Being a wife and mom doesn’t last forever. I look at older women like my mom and my aunt and see how lost they’ve become since their kids (and in some cases, their husband) left the nest. Their entire existence revolved around their families and now they don’t know who they are. The fact is that people get divorced and kids grow up. Pinning my whole life on being a mom and wife is not as stable as people think.
  3. I felt a lot of pressure to be smart growing up. When I was young, I was never praised for being a girly girl or being “pretty.” That didn’t matter in my house. What mattered was to be smart, well-read, and driven. It’s kinda ingrained in me to be as career-obsessed as I am.
  4. I feel like it’s the only thing in my life that I can control. When I look at my future as a career woman, I get excited because I know that I’m the one in charge. I’m not bending over backwards for a husband who I’ll probably end up divorcing anyway (at least according to statistics). The idea of going out there and completely taking control of my destiny is comforting. My future career is more of a sure thing than finding someone who will love me forever. People are too fickle—I’d rather depend on myself.
  5. For me, there’s no such thing as being too focused on your career. A lot of women get criticized for being too absorbed in their careers and not fulfilling their duty as women to procreate and nurture a happy home. This is completely ridiculous IMO and no woman should feel like they’re doing something wrong by advancing her career. Men don’t have to worry about this pressure and neither should we. It’s 2018.
  6. I’ve never wanted children. I’ve always felt weird around kids ever since I started to babysit for the first time. I don’t know what to do when they cry or get scared. I kinda just talk to them like they’re adults, but that doesn’t usually go anywhere. I don’t melt when I see a baby and I don’t think that’ll ever change. It’s just not for me.
  7. It’s not worth getting married and starting a family unless you have a boat-load of money. I’ve actually always said that I’ll only start a family if I’m rich and can afford a nanny. I don’t do anything halfway and I’ve seen too many people get into debt, take jobs they don’t want, and sacrifice their own happiness just so they can start a family. I’ll only consider getting married and starting a family if I have the money to do it.
  8. I want to change the world. I know that being a mom and a wife does change the world in a small way, but I just need something bigger. I know I won’t be happy unless I’m able to impact the world on a large scale. I want to touch all corners of this planet—it’s just something I have to do.
  9. I don’t want to be just a woman with a career. There’s a difference between a “career woman” and a “woman with a career.” I would make a horrible “woman with a career” because I can’t picture anything or anyone being more important to me than my work. Women with careers see their family as being the most important thing in their lives and I honestly see that as kinda lame.
  10. There’s a reason why I’m single more often than not. When I was high school, I was never really that interested in dating. Now that I’m in my late twenties, I’m… still not that interested in dating. This is proof enough that I’m meant to focus on something else.
Jennifer is a playwright, dancer, and theatre nerd living in the big city of Toronto, Canada. She studied Creative Writing at Concordia University and works as a lifestyle writer who focuses on Health, B2B, Tech, Psychology, Science, Food Trends and Millennial Life. She's also a coreographer, playwright, and lyricist, with choreography credits for McMaster University’s “Spring Awakening,” “Roxanne” for the Guelph Contemporary Dance Festival, and “The Beaver Den” for The LOT, among others.

You can see more of her work on her Contently page and follow her on Instagram @jenniferenchin.