Just Break Up With Him — 10 Signs Your Boyfriend Seriously Sucks

You may think that you’ve won the relationship lottery and your boyfriend is the best person in the world, but sometimes you’re the only one who believes that. They do say that love is blind, after all. You might actually be in a pretty bad relationship — you just don’t want to admit it and head back to the land of single women. Here are 10 signs your boyfriend seriously sucks:

  1. Your BFFs never invite him to parties. When you’re in a serious relationship, it’s pretty normal to bring your person with you pretty much everywhere. He’s supposed to be a big part of your life. If your best friends only extend party invitations to you or seem awkward when you ask if you can bring him, that’s a sign that they hate him. And if they hate him, there’s a good reason (or more than a few).
  2. He needs way too much alone time. It’s totally cool to be somewhat independent in a relationship. You’re not 18 anymore and you still want to live your own life, but it’s a problem if your boyfriend needs a lot of alone time. That’s a sign that he doesn’t even want to be dating you and just doesn’t know how to tell you that. If you’re with someone, you should want to spend time with them. It’s really that simple.
  3. He is super vague about milestones. At a certain point, you have to move forward in a relationship or you’re going to be in a state of limbo forever. You know that your boyfriend seriously sucks if he freaks out when you ask where things are going or suggest that you two move in together. He’s terrified of commitment and he’s never going to change.
  4. If you do move forward, it’s for convenience’s sake. If you and your boyfriend do end up moving in together, it’s because his lease is up or because he can’t stand his roommate anymore. It’s definitely not because the two of you decide it’s the right step to take. You figure it’s cool since you’re living together and yet it’s actually a huge problem.
  5. You do all the work in the relationship. You plan every date night. You text him morning, noon, and night. You make it your full-time job to make sure that you two are chatting on a regular basis and seeing each other pretty often, too. You bring up issues and start every serious discussion. Sorry to break it to you, but you’re basically in a relationship with yourself. You should probably ask yourself why your boyfriend is lazy AF and seems so disinterested.
  6. You have a nagging feeling that you’re settling. Only you can know this… and only you can push this thought deep down inside so you don’t have to think about it. Harsh but true. When you’re with the right person, the idea of settling doesn’t even cross your mind. It’s a problem if you wonder about this sometimes. Guess what? You’re with the wrong guy.
  7. He’s extremely critical of your life and choices. He doesn’t like that you wear your hair curly. He thinks your favorite TV shows are silly. He is the opposite of supportive. While you may ignore how creepy this actually is, it’s time to realize that this guy is a jerk. Don’t you want to be with someone who likes you for who you are?
  8. Everyone who meets him thinks he’s cocky. You may see hot confidence but your friends and family see a guy who thinks that the world revolves around him and that he knows everything. When your people don’t like the person you’re choosing to share your life with, it’s a sign that he’s a loser.
  9. He’s a walking list of your deal breakers. It’s impossible to expect a dream guy to walk into your life. No one is going to be everything that you want them to be and that’s actually okay. It’s another story if you’re dating a guy who has every deal breaker on your list. Whether he’s unemployed or just hates his job, smokes or drinks too much, or doesn’t read, it’s time to face facts: you’re not being honest about who you really want to be with.
  10. He makes you more miserable than happyYou’re not obligated to stay with someone just because you’ve been in a relationship with them for a while. If your boyfriend makes you cry more than smile and makes you feel more worried than calm, that’s a huge sign that he’s pretty awful. Once you figure out that you actually have the worst boyfriend ever, don’t you want to cut him out of your life? You deserve to be someone so much better.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.