I guess I grew up on too many romantic novels and Disney movies with happy endings because I’ve always believed that somewhere out there, my prince is waiting. Logically, I know I’m being a little too idealistic, but so what? I don’t care if I’m being naive — my faith in happily ever after holds strong.
- I won’t settle. What’s the point? Sure, I could get tired of being single and grab the next best thing that walks down the street, but that’s plain foolish. I don’t want a boring, humdrum, average relationship. I want fireworks and love that lasts a lifetime. That’s not going to happen with just anyone, so I have to be picky.
- I don’t want to waste time. There’s no point in biding my time by dating guys who aren’t good enough until the right person comes along. First of all, I might miss him if I’m distracted with someone else. Secondly, it’s simply a waste of my time and energy. I could be on my own making my goals and plans come true so that I’m ready for my partner when he finally enters my life.
- I know it’s out there. If I thought it was truly impossible and that no one had ever experienced it in real life, then I would give up on the idea of fairytale love. The problem is that I know it exists and I know that others have had it, whether for a little while or their entire lives. Because it’s something that’s actually obtainable, no matter how rare, I want it for myself.
- I’ve seen it before. I’ve witnessed fairytale love with my own eyes. I’m not saying it’s always perfect or that everything works out all the time for these couples; I’m saying that after years and years of being together, they still look at each other like no one else exists. I’ve seen husbands and wives in their eighties who still hold hands all the time. I’ve seen middle-aged couples who play footsie under the table at the diner. It’s adorable and it’s endearing and it’s possible.
- I’d rather have nothing than mediocrity. Who wants to settle for average in life, period? Not me! I don’t want to fool around with some dude I’m not even into just for the sake of having someone around. No thanks — I’m not that girl. I don’t need to have a man in my life. I want to choose someone to stand by my side who is the right person for the job.
- I grew up watching too many romantic movies. I’ve blamed my googly-eyed views of love on my upbringing for a long time now. I read a lot of classic novels and watched a lot of classic movies growing up. I was exposed to a grandiose, beautiful, probably unattainable image of romance. I think that seeing all that as a young girl gave me a somewhat unrealistic view of what love is. Still, I know that there’s amazing romance to be had somewhere out there.
- I have faith that it can happen for me. I know that I deserve a man who loves me as much as I’ll love him. I want to adore and be adored, for both my attributes and my flaws. I want someone who sees and accepts me for exactly who I am. I want someone who wouldn’t have me any other way. I believe he’ll find me someday.
- I believe there are good guys out there. Yes, I can be very skeptical at times. No, I don’t suffer fools. Still, I do believe that there are wonderful, decent men in the world. I know many of them. Unfortunately, they’re all family, friends, or very much taken! I haven’t met the man who’s the right match for me, but that doesn’t mean that I won’t. It just means it isn’t time yet.
- I’m cynical and romantic at the same time. We humans are complicated beings. I long for big, grand, amazing love, but I also have many walls I’ve built up over the years. I often despair of ever finding the romance I want. Sometimes I even stop believing it exists at all. Despite all that, I maintain a lingering hope that some lovely guy will come along and prove me wrong.
- There’s no point in dating the wrong guy. I know that my gut is never wrong, and still I persist in ignoring it! I’ve stopped all that and realized that I’d much rather go it alone than waste my precious energy and efforts on a man who doesn’t fit me. I’m going to bide my time and live my life happily. I’m not lonely because I know myself and I like myself. When the right one comes along, I want to be ready for him!
