I Don’t Want Just A Boyfriend Or Husband, I Want A True Life Partner

I want to get married someday, sure, but I don’t just want a future husband. I’m looking for something more than that. What I really want is a life partner.

  1. I want a man who’s my very best friend. I want to spend the rest of my life with my best friend by my side. I think the best relationships have strong friendships at their core, so I want to be with someone who looks at me as his best friend. I want to be able to tell each other anything because there are no boundaries on our closeness. I don’t just want a guy I love, I want a deep relationship that’s going to last forever.
  2. I want a partner who wants to hear about every detail of my day. Not because he feels like he’s supposed to ask but because he’s genuinely interested in me. I want an S.O. who cares about how my day went and who pays attention when I talk. I don’t want a guy who hears me, I want a man who actually listens and contributes to the conversation. We’re both going to have long days, but no matter what, I want to be dying to come home to my partner and tell him all about it because he’s truly the best part of my day.
  3. I want a guy who encourages me to go for my dreams. I have some pretty big goals rolling around in my brain and I want a guy who supports them. I don’t want to be with someone who crushes my spirit, I want someone who thinks that my career is just as important as his own because my life and my dreams are. I want a man who pushes me to be my very best, not one who doesn’t care whether or not I reach my full potential.
  4. I want a guy I’ll never get tired of. I don’t want to get bored. I’m a pretty antisocial person and I’ve always valued having a few very close friends over lots of random acquaintances. I need someone I can stand to be around all the time and not get sick of him because he keeps me on my toes and always keeps me laughing. I don’t want to live a life that’s normal, ordinary, or boring. What I really want is a partner that’s going to keep on surprising me and exciting me day after day and year after year.
  5. I want someone who wants the same things out of life that I do. I need to know we’re on the same path. There are some things in life that are just non-negotiable. I want to have kids. I want to always make my career a priority. I want to travel the world and see all that life has to offer. If we’re headed in two different directions then I might have found love but I haven’t found my life partner, and that means everything to me.
  6. I want a guy who knows how to support me just like I support him. I need someone who’s going to have my back, who’s rooting for me every step of the way. I don’t believe in women standing behind their men, I believe in partners standing together, side by side as equals. If I ever take a husband, then I’m not beneath him. We’ll be partners through and through.
  7. I want a guy who’s going to be there for me every step of the way. Whether times are good or bad, I need to know he’ll be by my side because I can truly count on him. We’re both going to have our ups and downs but I want to know that no matter what, we have each other’s back. At the end of the day, if he can’t stand by me at my worst, then he honestly doesn’t deserve me at my best.
  8. I want a man who’s going to help me check off my bucket list. I want to live my life to the fullest and I want a partner to share all of my adventures with. I want more than just an ordinary life, but that would mean nothing if I didn’t have someone by my side to share all of those experiences. I’m a dreamer and I believe in the impossible, so I need to be with someone who’s willing to chase after every impossibility with me.
  9. I want us to both be confident that we’re in this forever. I don’t want either of us to have any doubts. The divorce rate is way too high as it is and I don’t want to contribute to that. I want us both to be completely sure. I don’t want to go into something that serious with uncertainty. We either both agree that we’ll do whatever it takes to be committed to each other forever or there’s no reason to commit at all.
  10. I want someone who loves me for exactly the person that I am. I don’t want to be with someone who has the desire to change me. I’m amazing just the way I am and I want to be with someone who believes that too. I believe in growing as a person, but whoever I’m with should love me for who I am, not the girl he thinks or wants me to be. I’m looking for a partner who sees my beauty inside at out now, not just the potential of who I could be.
  11. I want a guy who can’t imagine a life without me. If he can picture himself with someone else, then he shouldn’t be with me. If he could find a girl he’d be just as happy with, then I’m not the girl for him. I don’t want our love to be a choice. I want it to be undeniable. I want a man who doesn’t even want to think about what life would be without me in it because he knows it would mean nothing compared to the life he shares with me.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.