Dry Humping Isn’t Just For Horny Teenagers — Here’s Why It’s So Hot

We all remember how desperate we were in high school for a little action. Maybe it was in your room or down in the basement when you both could barely handle the sexual tension anymore. Either way, you know it was getting hot when you started writhing against each other while still fully clothed. You may think dry humping (also called outercourse) is for desperate teens, but that’s where you’re wrong. Dry humping is an excellent addition to your foreplay game and can make date night hotter than ever. Here are a few reasons why.

1. It makes you feel young again. There’s something naughty and fun about reminiscing on teenage hijinks, especially when it comes to the bedroom. Now that you have a bigger space than the back of a car, there’s a better chance to explore all dry humping has to offer. Maybe do a little roleplay and pretend you have to rub one out before your curfew.
2. It’s a great way to tease your partner. There was always so much tension and frustration from not being able to go all the way. But now you can…but you don’t have to. Tease your partner by grinding against them, but refusing to let them take their clothes off. All of that buildup will be worth it for when you do take off clothes.
3. You can test your sexual compatibility. “But how could I possibly test sexual compatibility without sex?” you might ask. And that’s fair. But sex is more than just penetration; everything in-between counts, too. Without having to focus so much on the “main event”, you have more time to touch and grope each other. You’ll quickly know if you get along in the bedroom for future visits.
4. It provides some ah-maz-ing stimulation. If you’re the owner of a clitoris, outercourse is a fun way to get you all hot and bothered. Tease the clit as much as possible and see how massive your orgasm will be when things get real. Plus, the fabric rubbing against your clit the whole time? Yum.
5. Orgasm is possible. Yep, you can still come when you dry hump! Remember how you can get a lot of stimulation from outercourse? If you keep going, you’re sure to feel great things.
6. You can test your potential partner’s ability to respect your pace. If you want to hook up with someone later down the line, but not immediately, make dry humping a suggestion. If they insist that they only do full sex on the first date, they might not be the one for you, anyhow.
7. You can have total control if you want it. Being on top and in charge? Yes, thank you very much! If you want to dominate your partner and feel stimulated, dry humping is the way to get hot and heavy without a major workout.
8. There’s not much skill involved. You don’t have to be a bedroom guru to understand how to dry hump. You can focus solely on the passion you feel for your partner as opposed to whether or not you look hot bouncing on top of them. This isn’t to say that being skilled at dry humping isn’t an accomplishment, of course. Being a good lover comes in all shapes and sizes.
9. There’s less chance of getting an STI. What’s sexier than no risk of STDs (as long as clothes stay on) or pregnancy? Seems like a win-win. So until you’re more well-equipped with condoms or birth control, it’s a great way to relieve tension without the risk.
10. It’s an alternative for when you aren’t feeling up to full-blown sexcapades. Ever been horny but had zero energy? Or maybe you have just enough to get in a few moments of passion? See what you and your partner can accomplish over the clothes and be surprised at how effective it can be.
11. It can be a solo activity. You don’t actually need a partner for dry humping. It can be fun with or without one! Grab a pillow or mount your couch and go to town. It’s your chance to explore something new. You might feel a little silly doing it at first, but soon you’ll be feeling too many other things to be self-conscious. Wink wink.
12. There are plenty of positions to try. Just like sex, dry humping can happen in a variety of sexy positions. Play around and figure out what feels best. From classic missionary to cowgirl, friction can happen in many ways. Anything you can do with your clothes off, you can try with them on. You never know how good it might feel.
13. You can use your hands and toys. You can place your hands all over your partner or somewhere a little naughtier. Try some nipple play or grab a toy or two just like you would during the real thing.
14. It challenges your idea of what sex should be. Penis-in-vagina (PIV) sex is heteronormative and not the standard anymore. In reality, sex can be enjoyed in so many ways, so why not see what playing around with dry humping can do for your own sex life? You won’t know unless you give it a fair chance. Even if outercourse isn’t for you, trying something new is the first step to finding more things you like.