Is He Ever Going To Commit To You? 10 Signs The Answer Is A Big Fat No

Lots of us hold on way too long hoping that the guy we’re seeing will finally realize that we’re perfect girlfriend material. Sometimes, it’s hard to figure out whether or not this dude will ever decide to make things official. But if he’s displaying these signs, there should be no doubt in your mind that he’s never going to be more than just your almost-boyfriend:

  1. He Tells You Straight Up That He Doesn’t Want a Relationship. By going after a guy who specifically said he didn’t want to commit, you’re only setting yourself up for heartache. You might think you’ll be able to change his feelings, but in reality, you’re just going to waste your time and end up hurt in the end.
  2. He Only Calls You Late At Night. Honestly, unless he’s working during the day when you two could be hanging out, then you need to walk away if he can’t be bothered to hit you up when the sun is out. If he’s calling you late at night, he’s after one thing, and it’s not your heart.
  3. He Refuses To Introduce You To His Family. Of course it’s not ideal to invite your partner over to meet your family if the relationship is still brand new. However, if you’ve been seeing this guy for months now and you still haven’t met his loved ones, chances are it’s because he doesn’t intend on making you a serious part of his life.
  4. He Never Gets Jealous. Nobody wants an overly possessive guy, but something’s up if he literally never gets jealous. If he doesn’t mind other guys going after you, he most likely isn’t going to commit to you.
  5. He Doesn’t Include You In Big Decisions. If he’s making big decisions in his life without you, he isn’t going to commit the way you want him to. When you have a partner you want to be with for the foreseeable future, you’re going to want their input for the important choices you make. If he’s not even asking for your opinion, it’s because he doesn’t care about what you think.
  6. He Isn’t Over His Ex. This should be a huge red flag, but some girls think they’re the key to helping the guy they like get over The One That Got Away. Unfortunately, if he isn’t over his ex and you move in too fast, all you’re really going to do is confuse him and wind up hurt. Wait for him if you really want to, but honestly, you’re probably better off moving on to someone who’s emotionally available.
  7. He Has A Never-Ending List Of Excuses. He was supposed to hang out with you at a certain time, but at the last minute, he’s texting you saying he got out late and now he’s too tired. When you try to reschedule, he always ends up sick, busy, or without a charged phone. Does this sound familiar? If a guy really wants to be with you, he’ll make time to see you. If not, well, you know what you have to do.
  8. He Doesn’t Invite You To Social Events. Whether he’s going to watch the game at a friend’s house or attending an office party, he never invites you. The reason why is simple: he doesn’t want SOMEONE there to know that he’s with you. If you feel like he’s trying to keep you a secret, you’re probably right.
  9. You’re Putting In All The Effort. If you’re always the one to call, text, or make plans, he’s most likely not as committed as you think he is. If were into the relationship, you wouldn’t feel like you were the only one pulling your weight to try to make things work.
  10. He’s A Huge Flirt. Do you suspect he’s texting other girls? Does he still have online dating apps on his phone? If this guy just seems like he likes talking to women way too much, he’s not going to be ready to commit to just one any time soon. Quit holding your breath in hopes that you’ll be the girl to tame him, and find someone who treats you like you’re one in a million instead of just another name in his contact list.
Heather Burdo is a freelance writer from New York. She enjoys writing about relationships, parenting, and health topics. Visit her at