Finding “The One” May Seem Impossible, But I Promise He’s Out There

Finding “The One” May Seem Impossible, But I Promise He’s Out There ©iStock/ibreakstock

How do you know when you’ve finally met “The One”? Does your heart skip a beat every time he walks into the room? Does everything in the universe suddenly make sense? Unfortunately not. Mr. Right doesn’t really announce himself as such, and finding the guy you’re going to spend your life with often happens naturally rather than in some big bang occurrence. However, when you do find The One, there are a few big differences you’ll notice from your past relationships.

  1. You no longer have to compromise on the things you want in a partner. Obviously all relationships involve compromises and no man is perfect, but you won’t feel like he has a big but in his description. Accepting and loving him with his flaws will feel natural, and not like a conscious decision to make a compromise.
  2. You’re truly supported on a daily basis. You’ll feel like you’ve found someone who will always be on your team. He supports your hopes and dreams, believes in you, helps you when you need it, and is your biggest fan.
  3. You’re ridiculously excited about your future together. You’ll feel like you can’t wait to start your lives together! From vacations, house hunting, and career moves to the little things like pumpkin carving, beach days, and Netflix binges, you’ll be so excited to do it all with him by your side.
  4. You actually feel like you’re in an equal partnership. The best relationships are between two people who see each other as equals. It won’t feel like a power struggle and there won’t be pressure to conform to gender stereotypes. You’re both the MVP of this team.
  5. You feel safe and secure when you’re with him. Your home together will feel like a safe place where you can say and do as you please. You find it easy to be yourselves and trust each other. There’s respect for each other and fear doesn’t play any part in your relationship.
  6. You’re completely satisfied sexually. Whatever sexual satisfaction means to you, you’ve got it with him. Some couples have to work on this for a while before they get it right, but if he’s the one, he’ll be willing to put in the effort.
  7. You’re open to whatever the future holds for the two of you. You understand the future may not go as planned. If you still see yourselves together without the dream job in the dream city, he may be The One. You’re open to taking on life’s curveballs together — bring it on.
  8. You know there’s nothing you can’t handle as long as you’re together. Life is hard, but you can tackle anything as a team. You’ve had relationships in the past that fell apart when things got difficult, but that experience only helps you confirm that what you have now is unbreakable.
  9. You’re sure you can build something big together. A family, a business, a dream home, a lifetime of adventure, or whatever you’d like to see in your future. You can picture building something worthwhile, and doing it together.
  10. You know you’re loved just the way you are. He doesn’t pick and choose which aspects of your personality he wants around or pressure you to be different. You can put the good, the bad, and the ugly out on the table without any fear of being rejected. You can just relax, be yourself, and feel completely loved and accepted.
Holly Harris is a freelance writer, full time student, and mommy to a toddler sass monster. In her (nearly nonexistent) free time, you can find her lifting something heavy in her home gym or chugging vodka sodas with friends. She contributes to several other sites, including Elite Daily.