Gen X Woman Advice For Gen Z: What She Wishes ‘Somebody Told Me In My 20s’

Advice is plentiful out there, for everything from the best way to clean your house or save for retirement to how to live a happier life as a whole. And while most of this advice is total bullsh*t, Meghan Smith, the owner of Melody Note Vintage, is different. Her advice as someone in Gen X to those in Gen Z is making waves on TikTok because it’s smart, relatable, and actually good.

Back in December 2022, Palm Springs-based Smith went viral for posting a video in which she shared the things she wished someone (anyone!) had told her when she was in her 20s. In fact, it’s all wisdom she imparted on her own daughters once they got out of their teens. To date, the video has received more than 13 million views, and rightfully so.

As someone in Gen X, Smith feels particularly passionate about giving advice to Gen Z and late millennials (sorry, those of us in our late 30s are out of luck). So, what are the important things she believes younger people need to know and take to heart? Here are just a few of her pearls of wisdom.


This might only help one person and thats ok. Advice I wish somebody told me in my twenties. #genx advice for #genz and late #millennials #adviceforyour20s #lifeadvice #fyp dont be an asshat in the comments if you are older, its not helpful.

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  • You will never be more good-looking than you are today.
  • Put your phone down and enjoy your life.
  • Perfection is bullsh*t.
  • Laugh at yourself.
  • Don’t worry about making mistakes.
  • Don’t change for anybody.
  • Travel.
  • If someone shows you their true colors, believe them.
  • Don’t forget to always wear your sunscreen.
  • You end up dating the people you think you deserve. Usually, you deserve better.

In a second video, Smith offered even more advice to Gen Z as a GenXer who’s been there, done that.


This might only help one person and thats ok. Advice I wish somebody told me in my twenties part 2 #genx advice for #genz and late #millennials #adviceforyour20s #lifeadvice #fyp

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  • Don’t smoke.
  • Don’t spend longer than one year with the wrong person.
  • Don’t stress over the small stuff.
  • Know who’s on your side and who you can ask for help.
  • Find your own style.
  • Good manners never go out of style.
  • Your happiness is more important than other people’s disappointment.
  • Do the work that it takes to be really good at something.

While this advice might be really important for Gen Z, to be honest, millennials and even other Gen X people can take it to heart as many of us still haven’t learned these lessons!

Jennifer has been the managing editor of Bolde since its launch in 2014. Before that, she was the founding editor of HelloGiggles and also worked as an entertainment writer for Bustle and Digital Spy. Her work has been published in Bon Appetit, Decider, Vanity Fair, The New York TImes, and many more.