Getting Upset Because Of How You Treated Me Doesn’t Make Me “Crazy”

If you treat me like crap, then I’m going to get upset. That sounds justifiable to me, but to some men, the fact that I care about how a guy who’s supposed to care about me treats me makes me “crazy.” I refuse to accept this logic. I’m not crazy — I just know I deserve better.

  1. All I wanted was for you to care. Is it so much to want a guy to care about my feelings and how he treats me? I don’t think I’m crazy for wanting the guy I’m in a relationship with to actually treat me like he loves and values me. If I didn’t get upset about that, then the reality would be that I didn’t really care about you just like you clearly don’t care about me. You can call me crazy all you want, but I know better.
  2. You haven’t even seen “dramatic” yet. I’m not overreacting — not until you tell me that I am. Honestly, it really shows your lack of intelligence here that after all of your years on this earth, you’re still too stupid to realize you should never tell a woman she’s overreacting. You thought there was drama before? No, not yet, but there’s about to be. Women aren’t crazy just for having feelings but you MAKE me crazy when you treat me like my rational feelings are totally insane.
  3. I shouldn’t have ever had to ask you to give a crap. I deserved so much better than that. I’m not desperate enough to beg a guy to just show me a little respect. You either care or you don’t. Nothing I say about the matter will change anything, but I am allowed to be upset about the result. I deserve a man who loves me without me having to ask and I’m not crazy for wanting that.
  4. You can’t turn everything around on me. Nice try, but it’s not going to work. You can try to turn the tables, but you picked the wrong girl for that move. The problem here isn’t me, it’s you, so stop thinking about how I need to change my attitude and focus on changing yours. I’m not crazy for being upset about the way you treated me. This one is all on you.
  5. This is just a reaction. I’m not overreacting, I’m reacting to the fact that you hurt me/made me angry/treated me like dirt. What were you expecting? What sort of reaction would be acceptable to you? Please, inform me how exactly I should act towards you being a jerk. I’d really like to hear you tell me this one with a straight face. You don’t get to choose how I or anyone else feels and you certainly don’t get to call me crazy for expressing those feelings.
  6. If I didn’t care, I wouldn’t react. I’m just supposed to not care when you hurt me or treat me badly, right? That would make it a lot easier for you to go on thinking only about yourself. That’s not how the world works, buddy. I’m upset because I care about you and thought you felt the same about me. If I didn’t, I would just walk away instead of calling you out.
  7. I’m better off without you. I definitely deserve better than to be treated like I’m crazy. I bet you thought I would have spent the rest of my days pining after you, but that just isn’t going to happen. Even when we were together, you made me feel crazy anytime I expressed an emotion. You made me feel overly dramatic, but at the end of the day, all I wanted was for you to be invested in our relationship, and I don’t think that’s asking for too much.
  8. I have every right to be angry. You treated me poorly and I have every right to be upset about it. It’s like you think that once we broke up all the damage you did is just erased and that we could be friends, but you’re living in a fantasy. The hurt you caused me doesn’t just go away. I’ll get over it eventually, but I have every right to feel angry about the way you treated me and that doesn’t make me crazy.
  9. I’ll never let a man walk all over me. You can call me crazy all you want, but the truth is you feel weakened by my strength. You thought you could walk all over me, and you couldn’t handle the fact that I stood up for myself. You’re threatened by the idea that I’m a strong and independent woman who doesn’t need you and that’s why you label me as crazy. At the end of the day, you’re just trying to tear me down to build yourself up.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.