The Girls Who Seem To Have Everything — 10 Things They Do Differently

You know those women — the ones who have the beautiful house, the perfect job, the caring husband, and the best social life. They seem to have everything and it’s so unfair. Those things didn’t just fall into place on their own — there are things that girls who have everything do differently from the rest:

  1. They believe in success. Some people think that landing the dream career or finding the Mr. Right is unrealistic. These people don’t believe in success is possible, so they stand around and live unfulfilled lives. Believe in success, work your ass off, and it will come.
  2. They go after what they want. Whether it’s the promotion, the cute guy at the gym, or a new pair of shoes, they go after it. They know that there’s no sense in wasting any time because time is something you don’t always have. These women will do whatever it takes to get what they want. Missing the chance for something great is a fear for them.
  3. They don’t wait around for opportunity — they create it. Rejection is a fact of life, no matter how confident and talented you are. But instead of hoping opportunities will come knocking down their doors, they go out there and knock those doors down themselves. If they want to make something happen, they do it.
  4. They don’t let people tell them what they deserve. There are always people that claim that dreams can’t come true. These people don’t know what they deserve — or what anyone else does, for that matter. These people are OK with settling. Well, girls who have everything don’t settle for less. Everybody deserves the perfect life, but it takes work. They understand this and live by it.
  5. They’re not afraid to start from scratch. They understand that you don’t just wake up one day and passively decide to become an artist or a CEO — that success has to come from somewhere, and it comes from the bottom and works its way up to become something bigger. Sometimes that means sacrifice and realigning their current lifestyle with the one they want to have, and they’re ready for it.
  6. They have perspective. There’s a reason their relationship failed. There’s a reason they got fired. There is a reason they’re not happy. Instead of sitting around and moping, they find perspective. Instead of whining that the world is out to get them, they ask themselves what they need to do to fix it and then they do it.
  7. They’re real about who they are. Knowing themselves allows them to peel away anything that’ll get in their way of happiness. If they’re bad at something, they find someone who’s good at it and partner up, learning something along the way. Anyone who pretends to be good at everything doesn’t get very far in anything.
  8. They know how to have relationships. And not just with the opposite sex. Relationships with parents, friends, mentors, bosses, coworkers, and the person that services your car are all important because they all require care and communication. They know that success isn’t all down to themselves, so they’re appreciative of those they connect with in life.
  9. They have an idea of what “having everything” means to them. For some, having everything means having 50 pairs of shoes, a nice car, vacation time and a beautiful husband. For some, it’s having air to breathe, a tent in your car, a dog to walk or a secure job. Having an idea of what they want allows them to stay focused and have realistic goals.
  10. They’re dreamers. There’s passion behind every move they make, and no dream is too big. Every decision and every day has meaning and is just another step towards making a dream come true. If there isn’t a dream, there isn’t direction.
Kasandra Lynn is a freelance writer and blogger living in a small town. She is an aspiring novelist with a BA in English, has completed 2 novels, writes for multiple non-profit organizations and gets her blog,, published in a weekly column for her local newspaper.