A Guy Shares 10 Things Men Secretly Love But Won’t Admit

Guys might seem secretive, but not all of our secrets are skeletons in the closet levels of seriousness. Sometimes there are things that guys are simply too embarrassed to share because we don’t want to seem weak or needy or un-manly. I know it’s foolish, but it’s also true. In case you’re wondering, here are 10 examples of things that men secretly love about women but are unlikely to admit.

  1. When you make the first move Maybe you text him first. Maybe you ask him out. Maybe you’re the one to initiate sex for once. Whatever the situation, most guys love it when a woman makes the first move. We can’t really admit it because it goes against traditional (and admittedly outdated) gender roles that some men still believe in. However, it’s super flattering when it happens. It also takes a lot of pressure off us to do so.
  2. Backrubs Any time, any place, all guys getting a back rub from a lady. It could be in bed, while we’re lounging on the couch, or even while we’re driving. I don’t think I need to explain why. I mean, it’s relaxing, a little intimate, and a great way to show a person that you care. It’s just so crass to hint for a backrub by telling you how much we love them, so it’s not like we can share such information.
  3. Texting us during ladies’ night First of all, most guys don’t mind when you need a little time with your girlfriends. Granted, the possessive jerks will cry about it, but a good boyfriend/husband will be cool with it. At the same time, we also love when you text us while you’re out with your besties. Honestly, a lot of guys are just insecure enough to think that you’ve forgotten about us. It feels good to get a text to let us know that you’re thinking about us. It’s one of the llittle things in life, but it means a lot.
  4. Compliments Most men aren’t going to fish for compliments, but that doesn’t mean we don’t enjoy receiving them. Think about how much you enjoy being flattered by your partner. Well, the same applies to guys. We just don’t go looking for compliments as much as most women do sometimes. I’m sorry, but it’s true.
  5. Bragging about us in public Deep down, men just want their partners to be proud of them. Is that so hard to believe? Just think about the early part of a relationship when he did anything to impress you. That urge doesn’t just go away. We want to make you proud and so we love it when you brag about something we did or accomplished in front of other people.
  6. Asking for our help/advice I wouldn’t say that most men are needy. However, most of us do enjoy feeling needed, if that makes sense. We secretly love when it women ask for our advice or help. Keep in mind that most men love finding solutions to problems. We also love it when you trust us enough to ask.
  7. Making you smile/laugh From the second we start courting you, we love getting you to laugh or smile. For whatever reason, it gives us a serious sense of pride and accomplishment. I know we hide it sometimes, but we do care about your happiness. Secretly, guys love being the reason that a woman is smiling and is in a good mood.
  8. Showing us a little affection Sure, sex is always near the top of a guy’s wish list, but I don’t think you ladies realize how much a guy loves it when you show him affection in other ways. That means hugs, kisses, and any kind of physical contact. It all feels good when you do it out of love. I mean, deep down we kind of hope that it’ll lead to sex because that’s how we roll, but it’s not always about that.
  9. Saying what you want Despite what you may have seen in a few movies, most men hate decoding messages. Most of the time, we just want women to be direct about what they want. Specifically, this can apply to what you ladies like in bed. Sharing that info would be quite helpful. What’s the expression? “Help me, help you“? Of course, telling us what you want and being direct can also be helpful in other parts of the relationship too.
  10. Being the little spoon Okay, so this one may not apply to all guys, but I assure you more men than you realize feel this way. Maybe we don’t want to do this all the time, but would it kill you ladies to be the big spoon sometimes? I mean, we enjoy cuddling more than you realize, especially if we get to be the little spoon occasionally.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.