Newsflash: The Guy Who Falls Too Fast Is Probably Too Good To Be True

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One day you meet, and the next day he’s already in love and knows you’re the one for him( or so he says). It’s flattering to think that you’re just so irresistible that a guy just can’t control his feelings for you, but pump the breaks a minute and back up. A guy who falls too fast for you probably isn’t being genuine, and if he is, he’s probably a hot mess. Here’s why you need to be extremely wary.

  1. It’s better to be safe than sorry. Sure, with great risk could come great reward, but that’s not a given. If you jump the gun on love, you could be shot with some serious heartbreak when things don’t work out. He might be falling head over heels, but it’s not your job to catch him. You need to protect yourself because he’s certainly not looking out for you when he’s too busy fawning all over you.
  2. Players know how to prey on your emotions. These types of predators have had years of experience to find out exactly what girls want to hear. He doesn’t mean what he says when he whispers sweet nothings in your ear. After all, he only just met you, but he pretends he’s falling fast so you’ll fall even faster onto his mattress. It’s all a game, and getting you into bed is his prize.
  3. If he really likes you, you’ll be worth the wait. You need to tell that boy to slow his roll. He needs to take the time to get to know you before he goes throwing the “love” word around. Just because he wants to speed up the dating process doesn’t mean you have to play along. If you want to take things slow, he needs to respect that. If he doesn’t, well, at least now you know he was full of crap.
  4. If you don’t know your worth, you’ll miss all the red flags. Players love girls with low self-esteem because they don’t know how to fight for what they deserve. Women who lack self-confidence want to be loved so badly that they ignore all the red flags. The fact that he’s not right for you is out in the open but you’re just too blinded by your own self-doubt to see it. You deserve real love, but you’ll never find it until you have the confidence to seek it.
  5. Life isn’t a fairytale and he’s certainly not Prince Charming. You may want to believe in the fantasy of every Disney movie, but doing so just means he’ll be able to play you more easily. If he knows your one wish is for Prince Charming to show up at your doorstep completely out of the blue and turn your boring life into a fairytale then he won’t have to do too much to convince you he’s what you’ve been looking for (when he’s definitely not).
  6. There’s no such thing as love at first sight. That is, unless you want a man to love you for your looks only. You can’t know someone at first glance. He can lust after your sparkling eyes, your shy smile or your banging body, but lust isn’t love. He might find you attractive and want to sleep with you, but he doesn’t know your heart — and that’s the most important part of what you have to offer the right guy.
  7. Love takes time. You might want to find the love of your life ASAP, but that’s not how life works. You can’t rush a good thing and love is the most wonderful thing in the world, so be patient. Don’t trip over your heels. Take your time to fall gently and you’ll never have to look back and wonder where you went wrong.
  8. You’re too smart to fall for BS. If you’re too smart to fall for his crap then he can’t trick you into bed or into an almost relationship that will never offer you everything you’re after. Love is a game and you’re going to need a good defense. He’s throwing every sappy movie line at you, but you can’t eat it up. You have to play hardball here. He’s expecting you to be foolish, but the only way he can take advantage of your heart is if you let him.
  9. Love shouldn’t be taken lightly. Is he serious about you and about a relationship? If not, he has no right to put love into the equation. That tiny four-letter word holds a lot of meaning. Actions speak louder than words and he needs to be able to back up those feelings. He says he’s falling fast but he needs to be ready to get serious because the L-word changes everything.
  10. Real love isn’t that easy. You want a man to sweep you off your feet, but it isn’t always pure bliss. It takes hard work to make a relationship work. So is he willing to fight for you? He’s willing to say he loves you, but is he willing to take the time to put those words into action? Love isn’t simple and it certainly isn’t casual, so if he really loves you then he should be willing to give you commitment.
  11. The faster you fall, the harder you’ll hit the ground. That’s why you need to take things slow. He’s falling fast, but that doesn’t mean you need to go down with him. Protect yourself and take your time, because when he runs away at the first sign of trouble, your heart has to live through the damage.
  12. You can’t love someone you barely know. That’s the bottom line here. If you just met, then how can he claim he loves you? Infatuation isn’t real love and chemistry isn’t the foundation of a healthy relationship. You have to get to know someone before you can say, “I love you.” The guy who falls too fast won’t care to know you because the only part of you that he “loves” is your body, not your heart.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

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