If You Hate Being Single, It’s A Sign You Haven’t Been Single For Long Enough

If you’ve been single for a while, you might be a little sick and tired of it. Yes, being single can be lonely and frustrating at times but honestly, instead of getting out there to try to find someone, wait—it really does get better. Here are 14 ways in which the magic of being single happens:

  1. You see its beauty in time. You probably won’t see single life as being beautiful if you’ve just come out of a traumatic breakup and miss your ex. But once you become more comfortable with your new routine and life, you’ll realize single life’s got many great things about it.
  2. Time makes you chill. Soon, you won’t be in such a rush to go out there and find a guy because you’ll be too busy doing other things with your time, like building your empire. Who’s missing your ex now? It isn’t you.
  3. You learn about yourself. Forget learning about another person—what about you? There’s so much self-discovery in store that can take you on a really exciting journey if you’re open to it. The relationship you have with yourself is really the most important relationship you can have in life, and single life helps you enjoy it to the max.
  4. You see that life works in mysterious ways. There’s a reason you’re single right now. Maybe you need to spend time with your parents or you need to reconnect with childhood friends. Or, perhaps you want to start a business you’ve been dreaming about for ages but you never had time to do it. Whatever the case, keep your eyes peeled for why single life is really a big gift.
  5. You use your hatred for good. So you hate being single. That’s fine. You don’t have to sit in the corner and mope about it, though. As with any feeling, it’s what you do with it that matters. If you hate being single, you might not be able to get the man of your dreams right now, but you can use your hatred and anger to motivate you to change things so you can live the life you want right now.
  6. You slow down and live. Maybe you’re hesitant to love single life out of fear of turning away the man of your dreams because you’re having too much fun. Whatever. Remember that you can love being single right now and still give 100 percent to a future relationship. It’s about living for the moment and experiencing different types of joy. Don’t let them pass you by.
  7. You stop clutching the steering wheel. No matter how much you try to steer your life in a direction of your choice, life still has the final word. You might’ve been trying to find someone but you’re still single. Stop trying so hard! You need to let go and trust life a bit more to take you where you need to be.
  8. You learn to ride the wave. Sometimes you really love being single and other times you hate it. It’s normal. In fact, that rollercoaster of emotion will still happen when you’re in a relationship. That puts things in perspective, right? So what are you waiting for? You just have to make the most of what you have!
  9. You stop waiting for a man. You might think there are problems that can be solved by getting a boyfriend, such as not being lonely and having someone who’s got your back. When you really give yourself a chance to alleviate those problems, such by making connections so you’re not lonely, you’ll realize that you don’t need a boyfriend for them. Ever. Same goes for great sex.
  10. You love not compromising. You might not think that being selfish is fun, but that’s just ’cause you haven’t found big enough goals to achieve. Trust me, you’ll love not having to limit your passion and time for things you want. In relationships, on the other hand, you’ll always have to do some compromising. Screw that.
  11. You become confident AF. As time goes on and you get older, you’ll feel more comfortable in your body and soul. You’ll realize that you can make yourself happy, and once you do, you won’t depend on someone else to do it for you.
  12. You define yourself by other things. Do you really need to define yourself as being someone’s girlfriend or wife? Hell no. There are other, more important labels that give your life amazing purpose. Make them happen.
  13. You get a more balanced view. It’s easy to think that you’re missing out by not having a relationship (thanks, Facebook). But what about all the relationship crap you don’t have to put up with, like a boyfriend who doesn’t accept you or who bores the life out of you? It’s easy to think the grass is greener in Relationship Avenue, but it’s not. You’ll really realize this when you’ve been single for a while and hear a friend’s relationship drama. You’ll thank your lucky stars you’re not in that situation.
  14. You create your destiny. If you hate being single, you’re pretty much saying you hate your life. Is that really how you feel? Sorry to say, but you’re the one who’s responsible for making your life amazing. It definitely doesn’t require a man, relationships, or kids. Once you understand that, the sky’s the limit for how much fun your life can be.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.