It seems crazy to someone who’s never been put in such a situation before, but there are actually lots of guys out there who flirt with other women right in front of their girlfriends. If your partner is doing this, it’s time to kick him out of your life and leave him for the women he couldn’t tear his eyes away from even while you were right by his side.
He’s clearly not ready for a committed relationship.
Do you really think a guy who can’t even keep his attention on you is ready to commit? The fact that he’s still flirting even though he’s supposed to be in a relationship should tell you that he can only handle casual right now. Don’t fool yourself into thinking he wants something serious, because his behavior is clearly showing otherwise.
He’s addicted to the attention.
He’s the kind of guy who needs outside approval to know he’s a worthy human being. That crap is not coming from within. A part of you feels for him because it’s obviously coming from a place of believing he’s not good enough as he is, but the fact you have to deal with his constant need for attention is not what you signed up for. You want a boyfriend, not a puppy.
He’s using it as a way to sabotage his chance at something real.
He’s not even fully aware he’s doing this, and once you realize he’s ruining every chance at a relationship for himself, you can’t help but get a little sad about the whole thing. It’s not that he doesn’t want to be with you, it’s just that he doesn’t think he deserves you. So in order to keep himself from getting too close, he flirts. He sending you a message of “I don’t need you, see?” Take the hint and move on because it’s never going to stop unless he fixes himself.
It’s embarrassing for you.
Who wants to sit through a conversation about how low the waitress’ top is? You’ve been through these situations before and it’s painful for both you and the girl involved. It’s as if he’s testing your patience or something. You deserve to be with someone who actually cares about your emotional well-being, not someone who makes you feel like a fool.
He has extremely low self-esteem.
Do you really want to be with a guy who covers up his deep-seated shame by portraying himself as a playboy who can get any girl he wants? He already has you, but that’s not good enough — he needs the world to love him. At this point, nothing you do will ever quench his thirst for earning the acceptance from every girl he sees, so it’s probably best to end it while you can.
He thinks he’s better than you.
When he’s flirting with these girls, what he’s really saying is “Look how much more valuable I am than my partner, random girl.” He’s using other people to show you that he’s a catch and that you’d better hold onto him tight. To him, it’s like a competition. To you it’s just juvenile.
His defensiveness is proof he’ll never change.
The one time you did talk to him about it, he totally got offended and started explaining how he only does it for fun. You try to tell him that it actually hurts you when he flirts with other girls, but he just sees it as you trying to hinder him. If he’s not up to even discussing it or seeing things from your perspective, chances are he’ll be flirting ’til he dies.
Flirting with strangers is more important to him than your needs.
He puts the game of flirting before your feelings, and that’s so not cool. If he doesn’t think you’re important enough to retire his flirting habit, then he doesn’t deserve your love. If you found out that something you did made him uncomfortable, you would stop it right away because you care for him. If he can’t do the same for you, it’s time to retire this relationship permanently.
He’ll neglect you in other areas.
Not only does he ignore you when a hot girl walks by, he also ignores you when he’s watching the game or hanging out with his friends. He’s got a case of relationship ADD, and it’s not your job to keep him focused. Next thing you know, he’ll be bailing on dates and ignoring texts. Take the flirting as a sign of worst things to come.
He’s being selfish.
If he can’t even focus on you for the duration of your brunch date, imagine what else he’ll drop you for. Guys who flirt a lot tend to think the world revolves around them. Whatever he wants, he gets and he will be damned if you stop him from living the life he wants. Unfortunately, a relationship takes two people to work.
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