If He’s Hot & Cold With You, It’s Time To Delete His Number

If he doesn’t treat you like the catch you are by committing to you and being a consistent flame in your life, you shouldn’t spend time waiting for him. It really is as simple as that. A guy who’s hot and cold doesn’t belong in your life, the end. Here’s why you need to delete his number immediately.

  1. He’s giving you mixed messages. One minute he acts like he’s so into you, the next he’s giving you the cold shoulder. WTF? A guy who does this is either playing a game with you to keep you interested or just not feeling you, and honestly, it’s more than likely the latter. A guy who really likes you won’t play such childish games.
  2. He might slow fade or ghost you. Be careful: a guy who seems unpredictable and unreliable might be giving you hints that he’s about to get out of your life for good. Do him and yourself a favor by deleting his number and blocking him first.
  3. You can do so much better. You don’t need to waste your time with a guy who’s not interested enough in you or who doesn’t like you enough. He should be committed to you 150 percent if he deserves you. Don’t accept a lazy jerk who keeps you on the ice.
  4. He likes you when it’s convenient for him. A guy who blows hot and cold is selfish. He only makes an effort when it’s convenient for him to do so, like when he’s bored and lonely so he gives you a call. That’s some serious BS. He should be making an effort all the time, and you should demand nothing less from him.
  5. He should know what he wants. You don’t have time for confused guys who are all over the place and don’t know what they want. You need to be with someone who’s sure of himself and has a plan for the future in which you play a leading role. You’re not an extra in anyone’s life because you’re worth so much more. If he can’t see that, you should cut him from your life right now.
  6. You’ll spend many nights waiting. A guy who’s hot and cold will leave you wondering WTF is going on with him. You might spend nights analyzing his odd behavior with your best friends or waiting for him to call as he said he would (but then he doesn’t). It sucks to go through this and give him the benefit of the doubt. It’s a waste of data, time, and energy. If he’s blowing hot and cold now, he’s going to disappoint you again without fail.
  7. He’s being shifty. He can’t like and not like you at the same time, so what’s this guy’s deal? Clearly, he’s being shady if he’s giving you so many mixed messages. A guy who’s genuinely interested in you will be clear about his intentions and feelings. He won’t make you feel like you’re dating two different people. If this guy is going all Jekyll and Hyde on you, it’s a sign that one of them is a total lie.
  8. He’s waiting for when something better comes alongHe might be one of those guys who’s never satisfied with what he has and is always on the lookout for something better. A guy like that tends to keep women on the back-burner just in case he needs them, but then he can’t commit to any of them because he’s holding out for something else. What a loser.
  9. You should delete his number before he burns you. Wasting time with a guy who’s all over the place is never fun and it never ends well. Sooner or later you’ll get fed up or heartbroken, and he probably won’t even care because you’re the one who’s been invested in him. He hasn’t invested in you one bit!
  10. You won’t be able to trust him even if he changes. You might be holding out for when he’ll be a better man for you, for the day when he’ll be so into you that he won’t give you mixed messages ever again. Um, keep dreaming. Even if a miracle happened and he started being more consistent, you’d probably feel you can’t trust him. And why should you? If he could blow hot and cold once, he’ll probably do it again, which will be even harder to deal with.
  11. You’re never going to be his priority. The guy who treats you like this is never going to make you a priority in his life. You’re just an option to him. Instead of letting him treat you like an afterthought, demand more for yourself – but don’t expect him to give it to you. Give it to yourself by GTFO of his life. Free up the space on your phone for a better guy’s number who will chase you instead of expecting you to chase him.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.