How To Start A Conversation With A Girl You Like

For anyone who has ever had their eye on a lady, it can be daunting to make the first move. But that’s no excuse! There are plenty of effective ways to start a conversation with a girl you’re interested in without it being all that uncomfortable. Here are some easy ways to get started and some things to avoid when trying to break the ice.

1. Be confident. This doesn’t mean to be cocky or brag a lot. It means saying things with meaning and with a good volume when you start a conversation with the girl in question. You aren’t undermining yourself with “uh” and “um” and you aren’t babbling endlessly in nervousness. If you struggle with speaking confidently, it can help to get a partner to practice with before making any big moves.
2. Remember eye contact. Eye contact shows interest in both the person and what they are saying. Don’t stare them down, but your eyes shouldn’t be shifty or darting around the room the entire time you’re talking to her. It also looks really weird and they could become very uncomfortable around you.
3. Find something you have in common. Don’t go for something lazy like how you both happen to be wearing a similar color unless you have no other option. If she’s wearing a shirt with a band or logo on it, ask her about it. Don’t play trivia games with her or criticize her for not knowing everything about a certain subject. That’s a fast way to have the conversation end as opposed to impressing her with your knowledge. Simply showing you’re interested in getting to know her more is a great way to start a conversation with a girl you like.
4. Practice talking to people in general. This is a great life skill for anyone, so it’s not a waste of time to learn how to be more conversational with people. It’ll naturally come with conversations you have with the women you’re interested in. Remember that even the prettiest girl is still a human and talking to humans is a skill worth building!
5. Ask for a way to keep in touch with her. If she’s uncomfortable giving you her phone number, ask if she has social media and see if she’ll let you follow her on one of her accounts. Don’t push for any more than she’s comfortable with. This shows you respect her boundaries but still want to get to know her. Once you have one, keep the conversation going until some time has passed or she opens up the invitation to communicate elsewhere.
6. Remember to send a message. Something short and sweet like, “I’d love to get to know you more.” Keep it chill and casual and sprinkle in more questions to get to know her as the conversation moves forward. Ask to talk to her either through text or a call and schedule another time to hang out soon.

1. Let her initiate conversations, too. Playfully mention it’s “her move” and see what she does. She might take the bait or want you to continue the chase. Keep an eye on her body language and tone in messages to get an idea of how to approach future conversations.
2. Don’t dominate the conversation. You could end up looking conceited or like you’re uninterested in hearing her opinion. Especially if you’re babbling on and on…yawn. No thanks. Same with texting way too much. Give her time to respond and don’t panic if there is a lull in the conversation. Give her space and time to respond. Who knows? She could be just as nervous and excited as you are and needs to plan the perfect response.
3. Don’t be aggressive. Some people might say that a woman plays “hard to get”. While this is true to an extent, there are also many women who mean it when they tell you to get the f–k out of their business and that they aren’t interested. So dump the podcasts that tell you otherwise. Being mean or creepy isn’t going to get the results you want. In a sea of less-than-desirable dudes, be the exception. We’re begging you.
4. Don’t stalk her. This is a massively important rule for when you start a conversation with a girl. It’s great that you’re showing your interest, but you need to be respectful about it. That means keeping your distance. Not only does this apply to stalking in person, but try not to be a creep on social media either. I know it’s hard not to want to know more about her, but that’s something to unlock once you really get to know her. You need to work for it! Plus, how embarrassing would it be to mention something you saw on her social media without her telling you? Awkward.
5. Don’t take it personally if it doesn’t work out. You gathered up the courage to start a conversation with a girl you were interested in and it didn’t work out? That sucks, but don’t let it get you down. Easier said than done, of course. It’s important to remember that sometimes things aren’t meant to work out. It isn’t the end of the world or the girl’s fault. Compatibility is strange and dating can be tough. You should be proud of yourself for making the move in the first place. Rejection will always be part of the game. Don’t give up on love. Instead, take some time to recover and get back out there.