Meeting a great guy is always an amazing feeling, especially if you hit it off right from the start and you’re totally nuts about each other. A quick-moving relationship can be overwhelming though and sometimes you might suddenly find yourself deep in love with no grip on common sense anymore. It’s great to go with the flow and let yourself fall, but don’t forget to be rational about certain things. no matter how difficult it might be to keep your head on straight:
- Keep your routine. It might seem harmless to start skipping out on your workouts or daily commitments in favor of hanging out with the new guy who’s got your heart racing, but that’s not a great idea. You had a life before, and it’s what made you the person he’s attracted to in the first place. A new guy should never take from your existing life — if he’s the right guy, he’ll only add to and complement it.
- Don’t ditch your friends. It’s easy to get so caught up in spending time with your new guy because you’re head over heels, but never forget your friends in the process. Your social calendar should be balanced, and if all goes well, eventually blended with that new amazing guy in your life. Your friends will understand if you go off the map for a week or two, but beyond that, it’s time to get back on track.
- Practice safe sex. Realistically, a conversation about safe sex, recent STI testing, and birth control methods should be had with anyone you sleep with. The pull-out method can still absolutely get you pregnant, and nothing kills a budding romance faster than an unplanned pregnancy with someone you don’t fully know yet. If you feel too awkward to get real with him, you probably shouldn’t be sleeping with him.
- Keep your finances in check. We all spend a lot more in the beginning of a new relationship. Guys spend money on impressing us on dates, and women tend to spend more on new outfits and pitching in for the dinner checks after the first couple of dates. Make sure you’re spending what you can afford and that you’re not sacrificing your financial health at the expense of a new and exciting romantic prospect.
- Don’t lose sight of your goals. Everyone has a list of goals for themselves, and when a new person enters our lives in a hard-hitting way, sometimes we put those things on the backburner in favor of putting the most time and energy we can into our new guy adventures. Don’t. It’s important for you to to keep chasing your individual goals in life. If it’s meant to be, he’ll be your number one fan.
- Take breathers to keep your head on straight. It might seem illogical to spend nights away from him when you’re so engulfed by the new chemistry, but it’s actually extremely healthy to take time to yourself and do your own thing. Plus, taking a little time in between seeing each other will make you miss each other more, which will only make you even crazier about each other when you get together again.
- Remember you. Remember who you are and what you want. Chemistry is an amzing thing and sometimes it makes all of our normal logic completely disappear. You should never be sacrificing who you are or what your morals are for a new man in your life. You were a person before him, and if things don’t work out, you’ll be that person after him, too. Don’t be careless about yourself and if you can keep your good stuff together, you’ll be able to enjoy the great relationship that you potentially have.
