How To Be More Feminine: 32 Tips For Becoming More Ladylike

In a world where self-expression knows no bounds, defining femininity has become a deeply personal journey. As a woman, the quest to embrace your girly side is not about conforming to stereotypes but rather about celebrating your unique essence. It’s about amplifying the qualities that make you feel confident, graceful, and empowered in your skin. While it’s certainly not necessary, there are plenty of ways to be more feminine if that’s something you really want to do.

It should go without saying that you should never try to be more feminine to please other people, whether that’s a family member, a guy you like, or anyone else, for that matter. How you dress, act, and identify is down to personal choice — your comfort is all that should matter. However, if you’ve wanted to tap into your femininity but haven’t been sure where to start, here’s a bit of help.

Femininity explained: What does it mean to be feminine?

Being feminine today is about embracing the beauty of authenticity, and that looks different to everyone. It’s recognizing that there’s no single mold for what it means to be a woman. It’s about strength in vulnerability, resilience in the face of challenges, and grace in the pursuit of your dreams. It’s acknowledging that femininity is a mosaic of qualities—sensitivity, empathy, assertiveness, and compassion—all woven together to create a unique and powerful tapestry.

Not only that, but modern femininity is about owning your individuality and expressing it unapologetically. It’s understanding that being feminine is not a limitation but an empowering force that allows you to navigate life’s twists and turns with confidence, wisdom, and a fierce determination to be your authentic self. It’s about rewriting the script, breaking through stereotypes, and celebrating the multifaceted beauty of what it means to be a woman in today’s diverse and ever-evolving landscape. Get it? Got it? Good.

How to look more feminine

  1. Get your posture on point.  True elegance begins with how you carry yourself. Stand tall with your shoulders back, and let your movements exude grace. Good posture not only improves your physical appearance but also boosts your confidence. It’s a subtle yet powerful way to showcase your femininity.
  2. As odd as it sounds, keep your eyebrows groomed and well-shaped. Your eyebrows frame your face and can have a significant impact on your overall look. Consider visiting a professional for shaping or maintaining your brows. Aim for a shape that complements your facial features, enhancing your natural beauty.
  3. Keep your hair brushed and styled — and tame that frizz! Healthy hair is a symbol of vitality and femininity. Invest in a nourishing hair care routine that includes regular washing, conditioning, and occasional treatments. Find a hairstyle that suits your face shape and lifestyle, and remember that confidence is the best accessory.
  4. Use subtle makeup looks that enhance your features. Makeup is a fantastic tool for self-expression, and you don’t have to pile it on in multiple layers to get the benefits. Instead of masking your natural beauty, use makeup to highlight your best features. A touch of mascara, a subtle lip color, and some blush can go a long way in enhancing your appearance without overpowering it.
  5. Trim, shape, and keep your nails clean. Your hands often speak volumes about your attention to detail. Keeping your nails clean and neatly manicured is a small yet impactful way to enhance your feminine look. You don’t need intricate designs – a classic polish or a natural finish works wonders. However, if you are into gels and/or acrylics, these can help you look (and feel) more feminine.
  6. Add some skirts, dresses, and other girly attire to your wardrobe. Dressing femininely doesn’t mean adhering to rigid fashion norms. Instead, focus on finding clothing that makes you feel confident and comfortable. Flowing dresses, tailored blouses, and soft pastel colors can all contribute to a more feminine style.
  7. Develop a personalized skincare routine for a glowing complexion. Healthy, radiant skin is a timeless hallmark of femininity. Develop a skincare routine that suits your skin type, including cleansing, moisturizing, and protecting from the sun. Clear, glowing skin will make you feel more confident in your own skin.
  8. Find a signature fragrance. A delicate fragrance can leave a lasting impression. Choose a scent that resonates with you and use it sparingly. It should be a personal, subtle signature that draws people closer, not overwhelms them.
  9. Eat well, exercise, and look after your physical appearance. Your inner well-being reflects on the outside. Prioritize a balanced diet, regular exercise, and ample hydration. Of course, you don’t need to be stick thin or look a particular way to be more feminine — however, being conscious of your appearance is a very feminine trait that will translate to others.
  10. Prioritize self-expression with your accessory choices. Ultimately, the most beautiful version of yourself is the authentic one. Don’t be afraid to express your individuality. Whether it’s through unique accessories, meaningful tattoos, or a style that’s all your own, true femininity is about being yourself unapologetically.

How to act more feminine

  1. Embrace empathy and compassion towards everyone you meet. Femininity often shines through empathy and compassion. Practice active listening, put yourself in others’ shoes, and offer a kind word or a comforting gesture when needed. These acts of understanding and support are beautiful expressions of femininity.
  2. Nurture your relationships. Women are often celebrated for their ability to cultivate deep, meaningful connections. Invest time in building and maintaining strong relationships with friends, family, and partners. Show your appreciation and love through both words and actions.
  3. Learn how to communicate clearly and directly. Effective communication is key to any relationship. Cultivate the art of expressing yourself clearly and thoughtfully. Use assertive language when necessary, but also be a good listener and avoid confrontation when it’s not constructive.
  4. Tap into your vulnerability and let people in. Vulnerability is not a sign of weakness; it’s a testament to your authenticity. Allow yourself to be open and share your feelings and thoughts with trusted individuals. It’s a powerful way to connect on a deeper level.
  5. Practice patience. Patience is a virtue that radiates grace and inner strength. In our fast-paced world, take moments to slow down, breathe, and appreciate life’s beauty. This act of mindfulness embodies feminine energy.
  6. Cultivate gracefulness in the way you carry yourself. Grace isn’t just about physical movements; it extends to your behavior as well. Be graceful in your speech, actions, and reactions. Think before you speak and respond with poise, even in challenging situations.
  7. Celebrate your intuition. Women often possess strong intuition. Trust your gut feelings and instincts, and don’t be afraid to follow them. Your inner wisdom is a powerful tool in navigating life’s complexities.
  8. Support and uplift other women. Femininity thrives when women support each other, so make sure to prioritize sisterhood. Celebrate the successes of other women and offer encouragement when they face challenges. Together, we can create a more empowering and nurturing world.
  9. Develop a deep sense of resilience and strength. Resilience is an essential trait of feminine power. Life can be tough, but your ability to bounce back and grow from adversity is a remarkable display of your inner power.
  10. Focus on putting out positive vibes only. A positive attitude is infectious. Cultivate optimism and find joy in the small things. Your positivity will not only uplift your own spirit but also inspire those around you. Sure, there are plenty of positive men out there, but a sunny disposition is a uniquely feminine trait.
  11. Prioritize self-care. Taking care of yourself is not selfish; it’s self-love. Make self-care a non-negotiable part of your routine. Whether it’s meditation, exercise, or pursuing your passions, nurturing yourself is a cornerstone of femininity.

How to have a more feminine mindset

  1. Reframe vulnerability as courage. Shift your perspective on vulnerability. It’s not a sign of weakness but an act of courage. When you allow yourself to be vulnerable, you open doors to deep connections and personal growth.
  2. Embrace emotional intelligence. Recognize that emotional intelligence is a powerful asset. Understanding and managing your emotions, as well as empathizing with others, empowers you to navigate life’s complexities with grace and empathy.
  3. Value collaboration over competition. Replace the idea of competing with other women with collaboration and support. Together, women can achieve incredible feats. Celebrate each other’s successes and work as a team to uplift one another.
  4. Reject perfectionism. Release the pressure to be perfect. Embrace the beauty of imperfection and self-acceptance. Your flaws and quirks are what make you unique and authentic.
  5. Prioritize self-compassion. Be as kind to yourself as you are to others. Practice self-compassion by treating yourself with the same love and care you extend to friends and loved ones. You deserve it.
  6. Cultivate intuition as wisdom. Trust your intuition as a wellspring of wisdom. It’s not a mysterious force but a result of your experiences and innate knowledge. Listen to your inner voice—it’s often your best guide.
  7. See your sensitivity as a superpower. Sensitivity is a gift, not a weakness. It allows you to connect deeply with others, perceive nuances, and create meaningful relationships. Embrace your sensitivity as a superpower.
  8. Celebrate multifaceted identity. You’re not defined by one role or trait. Embrace your multifaceted identity—be it as a professional, friend, partner, or caregiver. Each facet contributes to your unique story.
  9. Reclaim self-care as self-empowerment. Self-care isn’t self-indulgence; it’s self-empowerment. Prioritize your well-being and self-love. When you take care of yourself, you have the strength to take on the world.
  10. Challenge stereotypes. Challenge societal stereotypes about femininity. Your identity is not confined by others’ expectations. Define your own path and rewrite the narrative about what it means to be feminine.
  11. Embrace authenticity as power. Authenticity is your most potent weapon. Embrace your true self, quirks and all. When you authentically express yourself, you radiate a unique, unapologetic power.
Sinead Cafferty is a writer who has authored four collections of poetry: "Dust Settling" (2012); "The Space Between" (2014); "Under, Under, Over" (2016); and "What You Can't Have" (2020). She's currently working on her first novel, a dystopian romance set in the 22nd Century, that's due out in 2024.

Sinead has an MFA in creative writing from NYU and has had residencies with the Vermont Studio Center and the National Center for Writing.