How To Kiss A Guy Who’s Shorter Than You

Is there a more pervasive stereotype nowadays than masculinity being associated with height? Why is it that shorter men are seen as less than? While there is no shortage of Short Kings who aren’t afraid or insecure — Joe Jonas and Sophie Turner spring to mind — there’s also a range of people that are wary of getting with a short guy. Here are a few ways to assuage your concerns so that we can give them the credit they deserve (and more importantly, how to kiss a short guy and love it).

  1. Unlearn your prejudices. Don’t get bogged down by what other people think. That’s no way to live your life. it is, after all, yours. Don’t waste it pandering to other people who aren’t invested for the right reasons. If you have met the perfect guy and he’s 5 foot 5, accept that it’s just a part of him. It’s certainly not a reason to call it quits. This will make it easier for him to accept himself if he struggles with insecurities about his height.
  2. Embrace your own height. Maybe there’s an added complexity about sharing a kiss with a short guy. Maybe you have your own insecurities about being a tall woman. This might resurface when it comes to kissing a short guy because the difference between you feels especially stark. However, it’s likely that these are thoughts that only you have. No one else will be aware of these things, so try to step away. Recontextualize how you feel about your height. Does it make you feel powerful? The average height for a man is around 5 foot 8. The suggestion that all men should be over 6ft is unrealistic. Unlearn these unspoken rules. You will be happier for it. Don’t think about the fact you’re stooping to kiss him – focus on the kiss itself.
  3. Get creative. There are always new angles that you can try out. This is a universal rule. Wink. Get a box out for him to stand on. Find a way to have fun with it. Once you stop overthinking it, you will remember that you’re here to have a good time with a person you care about.
  4. Kiss sitting down. If you’re still bothered by the fact of kissing a shorter guy, don’t worry. Most of the action tends to happen horizontally – or at least sat down. Height doesn’t really come into it as much. Plus, there’s the added benefit of a guy who might be less endowed because he has to work harder to learn the technique. He will be a better communicator of how to make you feel good. The 6-foot Greek gods always presume they can get away with pure sex appeal and often lack the nous or interest in pleasuring you.
  5. Ensure he feels comfortable. The more comfortable everyone is, the more relaxed they are. We’re all the best versions of ourselves when we’re not concerned with what everyone else is thinking. Everyone will be able to take their time and enjoy the kiss, rather than rushing through it in a panic, already thinking something’s going wrong.
  6. Don’t make a big deal about it. Let’s not be a boomer about it. The more you make a fuss without being productive the more you will ignite insecurities. Height doesn’t impact the quality of the kiss, so just chill. There are more important things in relationships.
  7. Don’t let it put you off heels. Even if you think your second date could result in a few make-out sessions, don’t avoid heels just because you’re with a short guy. If he’s so insecure about himself that he insists you can’t wear the shoes you like, drop him.
  8. Be confident. There’s nothing more attractive than confidence and ambition. No matter how short or tall you are. Focus on the ways that you are attracted to this person, not the negatives. Take control and initiate the kiss — it will really turn him on.
  9. Treat it like any other kiss. Yes, you’re stooping, but guys have to do that all the time. Couples are rarely the same height – that’s what makes things so fun. Roll with it.

There you have it – a list of ways to enjoy a kiss with a short guy and to be more forgiving of yourself and others. Kissing a guy for the first time is always weird and wonderful, so just accept that you will improve over time!

Hannah has a Masters degree in Romantic and Victorian literature in Scotland and spends her spare time writing anything from essays to short fiction about the life and times of the frogs in her local pond! She loves musical theatre, football, anything with potatoes, and remains a firm believer that most of the problems in this world can be solved by dancing around the kitchen to ABBA. You can find her on Instagram at @_hannahvic.