How To Rekindle The Spark In A Relationship When It Starts To Fade


When you first start a relationship, it’s hot and heavy to the point of almost being all-consuming. You want to be together 24/7, you can’t keep your hands off each other, and you want them so much that you feel like you’re going to go crazy. Thankfully, that tends to calm down a little the longer your relationship goes on. Sadly, that also means that eventually, you might start to become complacent or feel a lack of connection with your partner. It doesn’t have to be that way! Here’s how to rekindle the spark and make things fresh again.

  1. Make date night a priority. When you first got together, you likely went out a lot together and did a lot of fun stuff. This helped you get to know each other, created memories, and ultimately solidified your relationship. However, it’s likely that as you got more comfortable with one another, you stopped doing this. If you want to rekindle the spark between yourself and your partner, start by making date night a priority again. Get dressed up and leave the house together. Act like you did when you first met – you’ll be surprised by the effect it can have.
  2. Try something new in the bedroom. You hear this tip all the time but that’s because it’s so effective. After a while, the same old missionary position encounter just isn’t exciting anymore. While you should never do anything you’re uncomfortable with simply because you want to impress your partner, don’t be afraid to experiment together and switch things up. You never know, you could discover something hot that you’re into that you never even realized before.
  3. Be physically affectionate. It should go without saying that physical affection plays a huge part in a couple’s ability to rekindle the spark. Don’t underestimate just how vital things like holding hands, hugging, or even a kiss on the lips as you leave for work can be. This makes your partner feel appreciated, cared for, and loved, all of which pave the way for going a bit deeper.
  4. Try something new together. You don’t always have to fall back on the same old activities when it’s time to do something together. While I’m not suggesting you go skydiving or bungee jumping (though if you’re an adrenaline junkie, this is a great idea!), you should be willing to be a little more adventurous together and try something new that’s out of both of your comfort zones. This can go a long way in heating things up again.
  5. Prioritize real communication. If you want to rekindle the spark with your partner, it really does start with communication. Don’t be afraid to share the mundane details of your day, but also don’t be afraid to talk about how you’re feeling and express yourself freely even if you think your partner won’t understand. They just might – you never know.
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