Your friend achieves her goal of getting her dream job or her dream man and you can’t help but feel jealous. She’s got the things you want but can’t seem to achieve. It feels unfair. Truth be told, it sucks — and it’s totally normal to feel that way. But, here’s the thing: it doesn’t (and shouldn’t) have to rule your life or ruin your friendship. Even though it’s hard, you can use the experience of being jealous to your advantage and to help you grow. Here are 10 effective ways to stop being jealous of other people’s success. Send that green-eyed monster packing!
1. Stop And Say Thanks.
When you hear about someone else’s success, your knee-jerk reaction might be to think about what you’re lacking in your life. But that’s a downward spiral into negativity that you don’t need! Switch your focus by thinking about what you have and what makes you happy every day. There’s tons to be grateful for RN. And, there are so many different types of success to celebrate.
2. Remember That No One Has Everything.
Your friend might seem to have everything going for her, but does she really? Success and happiness never stick around forever. Everyone goes through tough times. Obvs you don’t want your friend to go through difficult times, but when you’re overwhelmed by a feeling of jealousy, just remember that we’re all on a rollercoaster of highs and lows. You might be down today, but you’ll be flying high tomorrow.
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4. Think About What They Had To Do To Get There.
No one’s an overnight success. Take a closer look at your friend’s success and think about what they had to do to achieve it. Think about all the hard work they put into achieving their goal and the sacrifices they had to make. This can help you deal with feelings of jealousy because you’ll see all the sweat and tears that went into it.
5. Pat Your Friend On The Back.
After thinking about all the hard work your friend put in to achieve their goal, you’ll want to celebrate their success! Go on and support them. Send them a bouquet of beautiful flowers, throw them a party, or just send them a text to say that they rock. Think about what it feels like when you’re having a great time and people around you aren’t supportive. It’s not cool, so don’t be someone who rains on other people’s parade.
6. Get Off Social Media.
While you want to be supportive of other people’s success, it might help you to steer clear of social media. Although you’re happy for their success, maybe you don’t need to see images of their success and happiness thrown all over your feed every time you log into social media, especially because everything looks super-perfect online when it’s not.
7. Use Jealousy To Take Stock Of Your Life.
Don’t just push down your feelings of jealousy. You can use them to focus on your own life. What is it you want? What does this jealousy make you feel about your life? What’s lacking? This is a great opportunity to think about how you can achieve your goals and dreams. Use the jealousy as fuel!
8. Learn From Their Success.
Another positive way to use your jealousy is to get a crash course from your friend’s success. Learn from them and how they managed to achieve their goals. Now’s the time to whip out your pen and notebook, ladies! You can learn from everyone around you and it can help you get to where you want to be.
9. Ask Yourself If You Even Want Their Success.
Maybe your friend has achieved a dream job as an engineer and you can’t help but feel jealous. But do you want what she has? It could be that you don’t even care about being an engineer – that’s not your deal – so why feel jealous? It’s easy to get wrapped up into feeling jealous, but question it to see what’s really bugging you.
10. Don’t Compare Yourself To Them.
When someone seems to be ticking off all the things you want from their goals list, it’s easy to compare yourself to them. Then, you might compare yourself to other people. Woah, stop! Life’s not a race and everyone’s journey is different. Nothing good ever comes from comparing yourself to others. Instead of doing this, think about how you can grow. Compare yourself to who you used to be and see who you want to become.
11. Do Something To Boost Your Confidence.
Feeling jealous can make you feel down about yourself. Now’s the time to focus on doing activities to boost your confidence! This can be something small, like making a new friend, or something larger, like signing up for a course to learn a new skill. You’ll feel better about yourself and your life, and get those positive feelings going.
