How To Tell A Guy You Miss Him Without Looking Pathetic

Whether your busy schedules have kept you apart for a while or you’ve grown distant, you realize you miss this guy and you want to tell him. What could be the harm, right? Well, unless you want to come off as desperate, make sure that you follow these rules so you stay in his mind for all the right reasons.

  1. Don’t overdo it. Yes, you missed him like mad when he was out of town, but you don’t need to tell him about it at length. It could seem like you were doing nothing but waiting around for him to get back. Besides, giving him little hints that you missed him will leave much more of an impact than if you tell him in thousands of words that you went nuts without him.
  2. Speaking of those hints… Giving him hints that you missed him will be the most memorable. You can do this by telling him he popped into your mind when you were at that coffee shop you both love going to so much, for example, or making a joke about how he’s going to have to make up for lost time. Something cute and funny like that will work.
  3. Tell him you want to see him. You want to make plans with him for the weekend and that’s a great opportunity to indirectly express that you missed him. Saying something like, “I can’t wait to see you on Saturday” is good because it builds anticipation for your next date while also giving him the message that he’s been on your mind.
  4. Don’t turn it into an attack. Maybe missing him was not a good experience. Maybe he left you on read for ages and you’re pissed off about it. If you show him that you’re angry when you don’t even know him that well, it could come off as desperate or even obsessed. If you really are angry, rather tell him that it would’ve been nice if he’d been honest with you about what was happening instead of being sarcastic about how much you missed him or expressing anger that he didn’t miss you. You’ll regret going drama queen on him.
  5. Tell him he’s on your mind. This is another easy (and not desperate) way to tell a guy you miss him. Send him a cute or funny message while adding that he’s been on your mind. This is also a good way to test what he thinks or feels about you when you’re still in the early stages of dating because it’s not doing too much too soon.
  6. Time it correctly. It’s not just how you express that you miss him but when you choose to express it that can make him feel a bit weirded out instead of flattered. For example, if you’ve just spent four hours together on a fantastic date and you text him that you miss him later that day, it might be a bit OTT. On the other hand, if you haven’t heard from him in two days and you feel like expressing it to him will be well received, then it’s totally fine to go ahead.
  7. Express something romantic. If you’ve been dating for some time, expressing to your partner that you miss him is a positive way to connect and grow closer. Instead of saying “I miss you so much,” which can become a bit boring over time, you could mix it up by expressing something romantic instead which will be a more creative way of saying you miss him. For example, you could say that you wish you could feel one of his amazing hugs right now.
  8. Keep it light. You can tell him you miss him in those exact words, but it might feel a bit OTT or uncomfortable to do if you haven’t been hanging out for a while. If you can’t fight the temptation, such as because you want him to know you have feelings for him, go ahead but keep it casual. Tell him in a light and fun way that he’s stuck on your mind and laugh it off so he doesn’t know if you’re serious or joking. This is also a good way to figure out what he wants from you.
  9. Message him out of the blue. Show him you miss him by sending him a text to see how he’s doing. When you show interest in asking about his day or the work presentation he was stressing about, it shows you that you care and he’ll also get the message that you miss him when he’s not around.
  10. Tell him it’s better when he’s around. This is one of the best ways to tell a guy you miss him. You can do this in a casual way, just like with some of the other tips on this list. If you went to the new Mexican restaurant in town and he couldn’t meet up with you, you can tell him that it would’ve been so much better if he’d been there. Bingo – you’ve told him you missed him without making it seem like you were wallowing at home. Perfect.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.