I Have Pubic Hair & I Don’t Care If Guys Like It Or Not

Confession: going bare down there freaks me out. I’m not saying I have a gigantic bush or anything (not that there’d be anything wrong with it if I did), but I don’t believe in stripping all my pubic hair. If this freaks a guy out, that’s fine — he’s not worth sleeping with anyway.

I refuse to look like a child or adult movie star. 

I’m sorry, but I can’t help associating being completely shaven with looking like a child. It just feels weird not to have hair in my private area. On the other hand, being bare can also be associated with the erotic star look. Ugh. If the guy I’m with wants to feel like he’s riding an adult sex movie star, it’s creepy AF. Besides, I prefer how I look with a little bit of hair.

I need to be comfortable with my body. 

A recent survey of 4,146 people found that 40 percent of men have asked their partners to change their pubic hair. WTF? I’m sorry, but I refuse to change my grooming practices for a guy. He might be happy but I wouldn’t feel comfortable. What would be the point of that?

I’ve experienced nasty sides of pubic hair removal. 

I’ve tried getting waxed and let me tell you, it was horrible. My skin swelled and became red and bumpy. It was super painful and it put me off doing anything on the sensitive skin of my pubic region other than shaving and trimming the hair. I don’t see why I’d want to try anything like that again.

I’m keeping a ‘single woman’ state of mind.

You know when you’ve been single for a long time and you stop giving f*cks about a lot of things, like shaving your pubic hair too much because no one’s going to see it? That was so liberating. I’ve decided to continue not giving too many f*cks about my pubic hair even when I’m in a relationship because it feels fantastic. If the guy can’t deal, then that’s his problem.

I won’t change for any guy. 

It really comes down to me being happy with how my pubic hair looks and I won’t be swayed on this issue, especially because asking me to change my pubic hair feels inappropriate. It would be like telling me to change to tampons or use sanitary towels during my period. WTF? It’s my personal choice so any guy who wants to sleep with me can get on board or get out.

I won’t be reduced to pubic hair. 

I get that too much hair can be gross down there, especially during oral sex, but the little bit of hair I have is fine by me. I’d hope that my partner would see beyond it to my other qualities and not reduce me to my vagina. Seriously, if my pubic hair is a deal-breaker, we have a much bigger problem.

I wouldn’t try to change a guy’s pubic hair. 

I think it would be really rude and weird to tell someone what they should be doing with their pubic hair. I’d never tell a guy to change his or give it more of a trim, so why the hell should I be with someone who wants to change mine? It’s unfair.

It’s a double standard.

Let’s be real for a sec: for decades, women have been going down on men who don’t trim or shave their pubic hair and have been dealing with it. Why is it such a big deal for men that women’s pubic areas have to be a certain way? Talk about a double standard!

My beauty routines are personal. 

How I deal with my pubic hair is a personal decision only I can make, just like the decisions I make regarding the makeup and clothing I wear or how I do my hair (the hair on my head). If a guy tells a woman to stop wearing her hair a certain way or to stop wearing pink clothing, it would be seen as controlling, jerk behavior. I don’t see why telling a woman how to change her pubic hair is any different.

I don’t care if it makes me less attractive.

 So much pressure is put on women to look attractive down there, but here’s the catch: it has to be in a way that’s attractive to men. Well, screw their opinions on vaginas. If men had vaginas, they’d probably agree with me that they should leave them alone! Basically, they shouldn’t be making such strong opinions on something they know nothing about. And, if a guy’s grossed out by my pubic hair, I’m not the unattractive one — he is.

I don’t need another thing to worry about. 

I worry about my appearance enough as it is — I really don’t need to worry that the guy I’m sleeping with is going to find something wrong with my pubic hair. I’d rather just come to terms with the fact that everyone has different ideas of what they want when it comes to pubic hair, and there’s someone out there who’s fine with mine!

It’s my vagina. 

At the end of the day, it’s my vagina and what I choose to do with it is up to me. That doesn’t mean that some men won’t dislike the bit of pubic hair that I have, but that’s life. I’d prefer that they just stop dating and/or sleeping with me if that’s the case. Besides, the right guy won’t obsess about my pubic hair. He’ll want to date me, not my vagina.

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