Just Because You Don’t Like A Guy Doesn’t Mean You Should Be Rude To Him

All of us have had a guy we have absolutely no interest in hit on us at some point. In a perfect world, a polite “no, thank you” would suffice, but some guys are more persistent than others. That’s why a lot of us have started throwing caution to the wind and going the bitch route when rejecting a guy. Better to make sure he gets the message without a doubt the first time, right? Well, maybe, but it’s probably not necessary most of the time.

  1. You can’t blame him for being interested in you. You’re gorgeous and have a wonderful personality, after all. So why wouldn’t he hit on you?
  2. Try to see his interest as a compliment. Of course, there are times, like with cat calling for example, that a guy’s advances are completely unwelcome and you are under no obligation to accept that. But if he tried to ask you out in a polite, non-threatening way, you should have enough respect for him to let him down in the same way.
  3. You want guys to make the first move, right? We’re all perfectly capable of making the first move if we’re so inclined, but a lot of women still like a guy who will chase her. So maybe we should be a little more understanding of a guy who actually has the balls to show interest, when a lot of guys don’t.
  4. How would you like it if a guy was rude to you? Hopefully your parents taught you at some point that you should treat people how you want to be treated. You’d probably prefer if a guy let you down easy if he wasn’t into you, right? So why not give him the same courtesy?
  5. It probably took courage for him to talk to you. Do you think it was easy for him to talk to you, or ask you out? No one likes being rejected, and he knew hitting on you was a risk, but he did it anyway. You should give him at least a little credit.
  6. He probably doesn’t deserve your hostility. Maybe you’ve had some guys in the past who wouldn’t take no for an answer. But not every guy is like that, so don’t assume you have to be a bitch for him to take the hint every time, because you don’t.
  7. Most guys just want you to be straight with them. No guy with any self respect wants you to go out with him if you’re genuinely not interested in going out with him. All you have to do is say thanks, but no thanks, and that should be more than enough to discourage any more attempts.
  8. You’re going to give him a complex. This only really applies to guys who ask you out in a nice way, but if you have a strongly negative reaction he’s naturally going to think there’s something particularly repulsive about him. Getting rejected is bad enough, there’s no need to add insult to injury.
  9. It just makes you look bad. There are plenty of guys who react negatively to a rejection, but at the end of the day, they’re the ones that will look like losers, not you. If that’s the route they decide to go, feel free to put them in their place, but at least try to be nice first.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to Bolde.com, contributes regularly to AmongMen.ca, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.