I Love You, But I Need To Let You Go

If you love each other then you should be together, right? That’s what I used to believe, but now I’m not so sure. I love you and I know you love me, but I don’t think that’s enough anymore. In fact, despite how much I still care about you, I think I need to let you go.

  1. I’m just not happy. I know I’m not happy and I can see that you’re not either, and we both deserve more than this. You bring me more pain than you do joy, even though I know that’s not your intention. That’s a pretty big problem. My life is supposed to be better because you’re in it, but in all honesty, it’s just not anymore. We should have the chance to find something better.
  2. Deep down, I know it’s not meant to be. At the end of the day, I know we’re not forever. I’ve seen couples that last a lifetime. I’ve seen love that doesn’t waver and relationships that will never die — we’re one of those couples, though. I look at old people who’ve spent their entire lives loving each other, and all I can think is that is not and will never be us.
  3. I deserve a greater love than this. If this is the love I deserve, then I must have some pretty bad dating karma. I thought real love would be full of joy, but this just seems like a lot of work and a lot of pain for a very little good. I want to love a man with my whole heart and not doubt the way we feel about each other. I want a man who feels lucky to have me and makes me feel blessed to have him, and that’s just not the kind of love I feel for you anymore.
  4. There are more bad times than good these days. That’s a pretty big problem. The few times we’re actually happy doesn’t make up for the majority of time when we’re miserable. Loving each other doesn’t necessarily mean we’re right for each other, and the fact that an overwhelming amount of our relationship is unhappy is proof of that.
  5. It feels like our relationship is one long series of fights. It’s just one argument after another. We fight almost every single day of our lives — does that sound like true love to you? Each time I think we’re getting over our last blowout, we’re on to our next argument. We can agree to disagree all we want, but at some point, we have to face the fact that we don’t see the world the same way and we want different things out of life.
  6. I honestly think I’m better off single. I know you’re not Mr. Right and I’d rather be single than be with Mr. Wrong. Not to sound harsh, but if we’re not meant to be than being with you is just a waste of time. I need to close the door on this relationship, heal my heart and then get back out there. The more time you occupy in my heart, the further off I am from finding “The One.”
  7. Our relationship isn’t healthy. I think we’re both guilty of not treating each other the way the other deserves. Our relationship feels a little all over the place. Sometimes we have awesome highs, but right around the corner is always a series of extreme lows. We both deserve to be someone’s everything and that’s why we need to be nothing to each other.
  8. Being with you is starting to make me feel bad about myself. You used to make me feel so special, but now you make me feel like I’m nothing. I’m losing confidence because I don’t feel like it’s even possible for you to be happy with me. I’m sick of trying to be the girl I think you want. I’m not right for you and I just want to go back to being myself.
  9. I want to let go before it’s too late. I don’t want to take this relationship any further when I know it’s not forever. In my opinion, the sooner we end things, the better. The fewer memories we make, the less I need to reflect on when it’s over. It’s in both of our best interests to call this off before we really start to hate each other or worse before it’s too late to find new love.
  10. Sometimes love isn’t enough. The truth is sometimes, love doesn’t conquer all. Love certainly isn’t fixing any of our problems. In the end, we can’t deny the fact that no matter how much we love each other we’re just not right for each other. I still love you but I honestly wish I didn’t because, at the end of the day, I know I need to let you go.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.