Do You Have Bad Dating Karma? If You’ve Done These Things, You Might

Do You Have Bad Dating Karma? If You’ve Done These Things, You Might ©iStock/sanjeri

Whether you’re a spiritual person or not, you have to admit that karma can be a real bitch. What goes around really does come around, especially when it comes to how you treat other people. Karma may not be a hot dating topic but it totally needs to be. These 10 things give you bad dating karma, so you might want to be careful:

  1. Ghosting a nice dude. I may be in the minority but I believe it’s okay to ghost a jerk. He kind of deserves it. If a guy insults you or makes you feel uncomfortable, go for it. But if your date is honestly a sweetheart, just not for you for whatever reason, please tell him the truth. Say there’s no chemistry and he’ll understand.
  2. Lying about what you want. Yeah, if you tell this guy that you want something casual when you’re looking for true love then freak out on him two weeks later, that’s on you. Honestly is always the best policy for a reason. Don’t lie about what kind of relationship you’re searching for and you’ll get what you want in return — if not now, then eventually.
  3. Pretending not to care. This is so lame. Let’s just agree to stop this, okay? Acting like you’re too good to share your feelings helps literally no one. This will only guarantee that you don’t get the love that you actually want.
  4. Cancelling dates last-minute. Yeah, life happens, but if you cancelled a first date every time you were tired, overworked, or in need of a Real Housewives marathon, you would never date, ever. Get it together and go on the date. Nothing that horrible will happen. And if it does, well, you’ve been through it before, right?
  5. Tinder-ing and telling. You used to hear “never kiss and tell” but if you’re using Tinder or dating a ton, you’re probably not even seeing these guys a second time, let alone kissing them. But you don’t need to tell everyone you know about your Tinder escapades. Keep it private because you wouldn’t want your dates to tell the world about you either.
  6. Going on more dates than you actually want to. This is super common and it really sucks. Why would you go on three dates with a guy that you see zero future with? It’s pretty unfair and basically makes you the worst person ever. No, you won’t be alone for the rest of your life, so grabbing onto the first guy who shows an interest isn’t the greatest plan. Admit that the first date blowed and move on.
  7. Saying you want a second date when you don’t. When a guy says he wants to see you again, don’t say yes when your head is screaming no. Even if you have to tell a little white lie like saying you just got out of a bad relationship, you have to tell him that you’re not going to date him. How would you feel if the situation was totally reversed? Exactly.
  8. Whining that you’re still single. Sure, go ahead and do this if you want to be the most annoying friend ever… and the worst date ever, too. Being super negative isn’t the best quality, and you’re not going to attract love if you hate your life. Chill out and learn to love things the way that they are, and your optimism will lead you to the right guy.
  9. Refusing to date. If you say you want to find love but won’t go on a date, that’s on you. You’re the only one who can make this happen. Yeah, there’s a certain thing called fate that you have zero hope of controlling, but that doesn’t mean you have to sit at home and lament your solo state.
  10. Phoning it in. It would be awesome if every time you went on a date, you were totally in the mood and ready to show off your sparkling personality. Of course, whenever you have a date scheduled, you just had the worst day ever, it’s raining, you have a killer headache and just can’t even. It’s like Murphy’s Law of First Dates. So what? Go on the date, meet the guy, try your best. If you keep phoning it in and putting zero effort into your first dates, it’s no wonder you’re not getting anywhere.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.