There are plenty of reasons to forgo marriage, and living your dream life is just one of them. There are so many places to go, people to meet and things to do in life, and saying “I do” can bring it all to a grinding halt. Why should I waste the best years of my life?
- Marriage doesn’t always last forever. It sucks to admit, but it’s true. Getting married doesn’t guarantee that you’re going to be with your partner for the rest of your life. In fact, divorce rates are rising in pretty much every country, and more and more people are realizing that marriage doesn’t have to be the goal of life anymore. There’s no use investing years in a marriage that might end in divorce anyway. If we only get one chance at bringing our dreams to life, there’s no way I’m going to be wasting it on a romantic relationship.
- I don’t want to be tied down to anyone. Marriage means that I’m going to have to consult with my spouse about anything I want to do. I won’t be able to hop on a plane and enjoy a random vacation. If I got married, I’d have to bring my spouse along or plan the vacation carefully instead of just following my whims. Honestly, that’s not how I want to live my life. I want to be able to do what I want without waiting for approval from someone else.
- There are so many different people in the world to love. How could I ever know that the person I marry would be the person I’d love for the rest of my life? That seems like a pretty big assumption to make. I don’t know who I’m going to meet down the road. If I’m going to be living my dream life, I need to be able to love all of the people in my life that I’m meant to love. Marriage will only complicate that.
- Pursuing a career is just as exciting as marriage. People usually get criticized for putting their careers before romantic relationships. Why is that? After all, if I only get one chance to live my life the way I want it, then I want to make sure I achieve all of my dreams. This includes my dreams of having the best career possible. If it makes me happy and I’m not hurting anyone, then I’m going to do it.
- Friendships are just as important as romantic relationships. How many times has someone you known gotten married and then completely lost touch with all of their friends? It sucks and it’s one of the reasons marriage isn’t conducive to living my dream life. Some of the greatest times in my life have been when I’m surrounded by friends. Trading in my friends for marriage isn’t something I’m particularly keen on doing. If I want to live my dream life, I want to do it with my friends by my side.
- Children don’t fit into my dream life either. That’s not to say I don’t like children, I just don’t want any kids of my own. I don’t want to get married and then have the whole thing fall apart when the topic of children comes up. I’m perfectly content being the babysitter for my friends’ and family members’ children. I have too many plans for my life, and being a mom would just get in the way.
- Weddings are an expensive party for just one single day. Sure, you can always get married in a courthouse with a judge and a few witnesses, but who really does that? Weddings are way too expensive, especially considering that they literally only last a few hours on a single day. If it’s supposed to be the most magical day of my life, why does it cost so damn much? I know it seems silly, but it’s just one of the reasons that make me convinced that marriage isn’t for me.
- In the end, marriage is kind of just about tax breaks. For most people, marriage is seen as the ultimate sign of a person’s love. But when you break it down, the only thing you get out of marriage is some breaks on your taxes. Why would I want to tie myself and someone else down for life for something so insignificant? It seems kind of silly when you think about it like that.
- I can show someone I love them without marrying them. If I really wanted to spend my life with just one person, I wouldn’t need marriage to do it. If I fall in love with someone, I would want them to stay with me because they want to, not because we got married. That’s living my dream life: loving someone with the ebb and flow that life naturally has. There’s no need to waste the one life that I have on marriage when I’m just fine without it.