You’re Not Really BFFs Until You’ve Done These 15 Things

You’re Not Really BFFs Until You’ve Done These 15 Things ©iStock/nd3000

Your best friend is that one person in your life that you can count on no matter what. She’s your sympathetic ear, your booze buddy and your emergency contact. She’s your bestie, but is she your BFF? Well, rumor has it that it’s only official if you do these things:

  1. Been drunk together. Simply put, this just shows that you actually trust her enough to let your guard down with her. You can bitch to each other, you tolerate one another’s drunken sides, and while you might not always remember what you did, you both still have that understanding that it was awesome anyway.
  2. Been there for each other during a epically painful breakup. Only true BFFs are there for you when you’re at your worst. If you’re able to truly love and support each other despite all the insanity that can come with a breakup, you two are there for life.
  3. Had people joke that you should date or that you sound like an old married couple. Let’s just be real, here — people don’t make those kinds of jokes about acquaintances.
  4. Gone on a ridiculous adventure together. Whether it’s a crazy-ass road trip to Vegas or just a weird trip on some acid doesn’t matter. The important thing here is that you’ve gone out and done crazy things together, and actually have memories to prove it.
  5. Ranted about your boyfriends to each other. Because, let’s face it, guys aren’t always perfect.
  6. Managed to navigate a major emergency together. What’s a best friend if not someone who you know you can rely on when times get rough? If she’s there for you when no one else is, you can bet your bottom dollar that she’s your real BFF.
  7. Seen each other naked and/or talked about gross body stuff. This is a level of intimacy that most people will never have with you. If you’re cool about ranting about your period to your best friend, or if your best friend has seen you in the buff, it’s safe to say you’re most likely BFFs.
  8. Held full conversations without words. That one look says it all, no verbal communication necessary. This comes in handy in too many situations to count and this kind of bond is super hard to come by.
  9. Had that one inside joke that no one will understand but you. It’s almost always a “you had to be there” joke.
  10. Shared some pretty epic secrets and have actually had them kept. This is actually seriously rare. If you have a friend who doesn’t blab your stuff, consider yourself blessed.
  11. Met each other’s families. There are only a few exceptions to this rule, but the fact is that when you’re really BFFs, you’re part of her family. After all, her kids are going to need a crazy aunt, right?
  12. Been brutally honest with her and vice versa. Let’s just face it, there are moments where people need to hear things that they don’t necessarily want to hear. When this happens, your BFF should be the one who does it.
  13. Received texts from her in the middle of the night. Only BFFs will know that you’re cool with random late night texts. Hell, if you send any of those insane BFF texts to someone regardless of the time, you already know she’s your one true best friend.
  14. Bared your soul to each other. The reason you let her in is because you know she won’t hurt you.
  15. Stood up for her when someone was talking crap about her. Because real friendship is always worth fighting for, and because your best friend is too damned awesome not to defend.
Ossiana Tepfenhart is a New Jersey based writer and editor with bylines in Mashed, Newsbreak, Good Men Project, YourTango, and many more. She’s also the author of a safe travel guide for LGBTQIA+ people available on Amazon.

She regularly writes on her popular Medium page and posts on TikTok and Instagram @ossianamakescontent.