Nudes & 9 Other Things Men Should Never Ask Us For

Nudes & 9 Other Things Men Should Never Ask Us For ©iStock/gilaxia

Men need to stop asking us for whatever they want, whenever they want, without taking our feelings into consideration. Even though they think they’re making simple requests, they can come across as hurtful. If they want to treat us the way we deserve, then they should never ask us for these disrespectful things:

  1. Nudes. If you’ve been flirting with us, we’ve already figured out that you’d like to see us naked. It’s not a hard code to crack. So if we wanted to send you nudes, we’d send them to you without being prompted. Asking us for them isn’t going to get you anywhere.
  2. A sandwich. If we’re already in the kitchen making a sandwich for ourself, then feel free to ask us to make you an extra one. But if we’re sitting next to you on the couch, don’t ask us to get up and do the work for you. The fridge is just as close to you as it is to us.
  3. Our passwords. Asking us for the password to our Facebook, email account, or phone lock screen is an easy way to say that you don’t trust us. Some of us like to keep our private life private, so we won’t appreciate being asked to give up that right.
  4. To go “makeup free.” Don’t tell us to wear less makeup. Don’t tell us to wear shorter skirts. We dress for ourselves, not for men. We aren’t going to spend hundreds of dollars altering our entire wardrobe, just so we can make you happy.
  5. Unreturned oral. Feel free to ask us to go down on you, as long as you’re willing to return the favor. If you’re not, then you have no business asking us to sacrifice ten minutes of our day to pleasure you. If you’re willing to receive, you should be willing to give.
  6. Unrestricted freedom. If we’re dating you, you can’t expect us to be okay with the fact that you didn’t come home on a random night. We won’t agree to a “no questions asked” policy. We care about you, which is why we want to know what you’ve been up to.
  7. To pick up the bill. To be fair, we shouldn’t ask you to pay the bill either. We should both have enough cash on us to pay for our own meals. If we offer to get the check, you can let us. But you shouldn’t force us to do it.
  8. Smiles. Don’t ask us to smile, just because we have resting bitch face. If you do, we’re going to transition from looking mad to actually being mad.
  9. To lose weight. Never ask us to lose a few pounds. If you don’t want us when we’re overweight, then you don’t deserve us at all. Our size shouldn’t have anything to do with how much you love us.
  10. Anything we’ve already said “no” to. Some men need to learn how to handle rejection. If we tell you we don’t want to go out with you, or that we’re not in the mood for sex, don’t continue to pressure us to do what you want. Respect our decision by leaving well enough alone.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.