Obnoxious Things Strong Women Have To Put Up With

Any strong, smart, badass woman who takes no crap has probably been called intimidating once or twice. Most people just don’t get who we are and what we’re all about — instead, we get labeled as bitches and people either hate us or are afraid of us. That’s not who we are deep down, but that doesn’t mean we don’t have to put up with a lot of BS on a daily basis.

  1. We’re seen as bitches because we’re assertive. Intimidating women are routinely faced with the bitch label because we’re assertive. We go after what we want and won’t let a set back hold us down forever. It genuinely sucks when people are constantly judging us based on the way we approach our ambitions. It has nothing to do with who we are deep down, it’s merely how we reach for our successes.
  2. Other women hate us. A lot of women think we’re aggressive and either feel like they need to talk crap about us or just write us off, which blows. It would be nice if women could just celebrate and uplift each other, even if they’re different. If we’re not hurting anyone with our lifestyle, there’s no need to cut us down.
  3. We’re not robots — we still struggle with self-doubt. When you’re an intimidating woman, you’ll struggle with self-doubt from time to time. It’s not that we’re not confident, it’s that society often tries to give us reasons as to why we should be ashamed of who we are, and sometimes, it gets to us.
  4. We’re seen as competitive, even though we’re only competing with ourselves. When we’re zoning in on a goal we want to conquer, we do it with ferocity. This comes across as competitive, which is something apparently women aren’t supposed to be. Sorry to burst the bubble, but when we want something, we’re going to work hard to get it and we’re sick of being labelled negatively for that.
  5. We don’t want to seem like we’re bragging. When you’re a woman killing it in life and everyone knows it, you tend to downplay your successes because you fear that being outwardly proud of yourself is just one more thing people will try to knock you down for. An intimidating woman who is proud of herself is seen as arrogant and cocky, rather than someone who’s just happy that she’s making positive progress in her life.
  6. Men are afraid to approach us. For some reason, men see us as a threat rather than an asset to their own dynamic, so we rarely get approached. If they do approach us, many are quickly put off by the fact that we’re bossing our own lives already, so they don’t know where they’d fit in. Fun fact, guys — being wanted and not needed is actually way better.
  7. Our lives are intense. We lead intense lifestyles because we’re constantly working on ways to improve our lives. You won’t find us routinely curled up under a blanket on the couch because for us, there’s always work to do. It’s hard to keep up with us, which makes friendships and relationships more of a challenge for us to navigate.
  8. We have to work harder to shape people’s perceptions of us. Sugar coating is something we’re definitely used to. We know we can’t always be 100 percent authentic to ourselves because of the more delicate personalities we come across. We’re constantly struggling to downplay our leadership and dictations because we genuinely don’t want to offend anyone.
  9. We’re exhausted from being judged all the time. We’re not trying to come across forceful and unruly — we’re really not even like that deep down. If people took the time to explore who we are inside, they’d find that we’re actually very caring and genuine women. Being an independent, successful and fearless woman in our modern society is pretty exhausting at times because of the negative opinions it comes with, but even though these are the problems we face, we won’t change ourselves for anyone because what we’re doing works for us. We can’t please everyone.