Is He Ready To Grow Up? 12 Signs He’s On His Way To Being A Man

The worst part about dating an immature guy is that you’re trying to have an adult relationship with someone who’s afraid of their emotions. The good news is most immature men eventually grow up. So, how do you know he’s finally ready to become the partner you need? If any of these 12 signs sound familiar, he’s well on his way to grown man status.

  1. He owns up to his immaturity. He’s not making excuses for his childish behavior anymore. Instead, he’s owning up to past mistakes and apologizing for them. He knows he was wrong for constantly leaving you on “read” and ignoring your calls. He hurt you a lot, and he’s mature enough to finally admit it.
  2. He’s Setting Realistic Goals. He’s thinking seriously about his future and yours. He’s making plans and setting goals that are actually attainable. A guy who’s focused on creating a life with you is someone who’s ready to grow up and embrace adulthood. He might be scared, but he’s not letting fear get in the way.
  3. He’s gotten Romantic. He used to only do the bare minimum to keep you interested. Now, he shows affection because he wants to and because he knows you deserve it. He calls every day, takes you on thoughtful dates, and goes out of his way to spend time with you. The more people grow up, the more they realize they have to put in the effort for a relationship to work. It sounds like he’s finally realized that!
  4. He’s Not Living For Drama. Fighting used to be his favorite pastime. He used to always pick arguments and blow them out of proportion. Boys love drama, but men don’t. Is he over the petty BS, or is he still making a big deal out of every small, irrelevant thing? If he’s living a relatively drama-free existence that’s a good sign of maturity.
  5. He’s Communicating With You. He’s having mature conversations with you about things that actually matter. He’s talking about his job, his career goals, and sharing his emotions. He might not be telling you everything, but he’s telling you enough to make you feel involved in his life.
  6. He’s Willing To Leave His Comfort Zone. Do you want to go on a double date with your best friend and her annoying boyfriend? He’s down. Sure, he might hate it, but he’ll go. Why? To make you happy. He’s willing to leave his comfort zone, at least every once in a while, if that means putting a smile on your face.
  7. He’s Deleted The Dating Apps. It’s not enough for him to say he’s committed, he has to prove it by focusing on you and you only. That’s why he deleted his dating apps and removed every girl he’s ever slept with on Snapchat. His phone no longer gives the impression that he’s single and on the prowl. Instead, it looks like he’s in a healthy relationship and loving it.
  8. He’s Changing His Priorities. He’s not staying up until midnight anymore or partying with his friends every single weekend. He’s attending business workshops, going to dinner with his parents, and of course, making time for you. His priorities have shifted and it’s because he’s maturing and realizing what’s important.
  9. He Pays Attention These Days. You don’t feel ignored anymore. When you walk into the room, he looks up and acknowledges your presence. He notices when you change your hair and when you wear something extra-nice. He’s finally reading your love language. He knows what you need and that’s to fee cherished by your significant other.
  10. He’s Not Holding Grudges. Chances are you’ve both said some rude things to each other. (Be honest, you know it’s true.) Is he ready to forgive you or is he still bringing up past fights? If you can both forgive and forget, that’s a sign he’s maturing. It’s not always easy to talk things out and let go of grudges, but it’s a necessary part of growing up.
  11. His Apartment Doesn’t Scream “Bachelor.” He’s not the world’s cleanest person, but he’s trying to keep his home tidy. His kitchen isn’t always stacked with dirty dishes and his bedroom doesn’t smell like a sock drawer anymore. He’s starting to care more about how he’s perceived by others; especially you. That’s a good sign
  12. He’s In Control Of His Emotions. He’s not letting his emotions get the best of him anymore. No matter how upset he gets with you (or the world), he doesn’t scream or shout to get his point across. He’s in control of his actions and knows how to think before he opens his mouth, which is why your communication is so solid.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.