There are two kinds of single women in the world: those that desperately want a relationship and those that are totally cool with their solo situation. No matter how much you enjoy your alone time and the feeling of freedom that comes with being unattached, at a certain point you want to meet that special someone — not because you can’t do anything for yourself or you can’t live without a significant other, but because companionship is important. Here are the real reasons you want a boyfriend, even though you’re totally killing it solo:
You want to fall in love. It’s hard to think about being interested in a relationship without the desire for love, but a surprisingly high number of people seem to think that a boyfriend is just arm candy or a plus-one for those weddings you really don’t want to go to. Nothing could be further from the truth. You want your modern version of Prince Charming who totally gets that you can cook amazing meals but doesn’t expect that from you – and who will even do the cleaning himself.
You want actual commitment. A crazy concept in today’s world, but the idea of committing to another person is still beautiful and worthy. If you want to grow old with someone (or at least spend the next few years with them), call them your one and only, go on amazing trips, experience life with them – those are all right reasons to call someone your BF.
You want a new best friend. Of course you have your girlfriends and they’re the absolute best. You’ll never replace them with your new guy – that’s super lame. But the best relationships are the ones when both parties are actually best friends. You want a confidante who you can share secrets new and old with. You want someone with whom you can binge-watch the new sitcom or drama everyone can’t stop talking about.
You want to get all philosophical. Okay, you don’t have to start quoting Plato and Socrates. But if you’re searching for a deeper connection and want more than just surface-level small talk, a relationship could give you that. You want to stay up until 3 a.m. with someone because you can’t stop talking and sleep seems super boring compared to whatever the two of you have to say.
You want to settle down. This is more than just committing to another person and giving them a label. This is when you’re over the idea of settling and want to find your Derek Shepherd (without the whole tragic death thing, of course). Settling down can mean anything to you – it’s not necessarily a ticket to a white wedding, unless you’re into that. It’s the romantic equivalent of kicking your uncomfortable shoes off at the end of a long day or getting into bed when you’re beyond exhausted. It’s comforting and sweet and so awesome to not have to go on another awkward first date again.
You want adventure. No matter how much we love the single life, it does get pretty dull after a while. You’re over having fun by yourself or only with your friends. You want to meet someone and have fun with them. You want more than just mere fun, you want adventure, new experiences, new ideas. You want it all.
You want to be part of his family. Depending on how lucky you get, being a part of your boyfriend’s family could be the best thing ever or your greatest nightmare. You’re hoping it’s the former. You might be an only child and longing for that huge family, or you want someplace to go on Christmas that’s not dealing with your crazy relatives (so you can go deal with your new BF’s crazy relatives, basically).
You want to be content. Not happy. Being happy is pretty much a given. What you’re searching for is being completely content – at peace with who you are and who you’ve chosen to spend your time with. You want to know that you made the right choice (as much as we can know anything in this crazy world).
You’re tired of crazy surprises. Dating is a lot of things – awful, frustrating, exciting, hopeful. It also provides you with a lot of weird surprises. Surprise: that guy looks nothing like his profile picture! Surprise: he’s a total jerk! Surprise: he’s super sexist! It’s totally fine to want a steady boyfriend who you know is a good person and will always be there for you.
You’ve met an amazing guy. This is the best reason to want a boyfriend, right? Somehow, through some magic of the universe, you’ve met this guy and everything is falling into place. It may be all red roses and violins playing and kisses in the rain. Or it may just be pizza and Netflix and cheesy cuddling. Whatever it is, it’s yours, and you wouldn’t trade it for a second.
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