There’s nothing more debatable in the dating world than the concept of meeting the right person at the wrong time. Many people have the one who got away or someone with whom they feel like the timing was off in a relationship. But others are more skeptical because if you didn’t last, surely you just weren’t meant to be together. So, is the concept of the right person at the wrong time even a thing?
- You can meet the right person at the wrong time. There are tons of stories about couples breaking up when they were younger, only to get back together for good a few years down the line, so the ‘right person wrong’ time thing seems like a real phenomenon. You’re probably not going to know that’s what’s going on for sure unless you finally make it work.
- They might actually be your twin flame. In some cases, feeling a strong connection to another person is actually a twin flame relationship and not an instance of meeting the right person at the wrong time. Twin flames are people believed to share a soul or are a mirror of each other’s souls. Twin flame relationships are typically intense and come with lots of life lessons. They don’t always last, and they’re not always meant to last either.
- But sometimes, we look back with rose-tinted glasses. It could be a case that you met your perfect match at the wrong time, or you might be looking back with rose-tinted glasses. Nostalgia can make us feel like “the good old days” were perfect and much happier than they were. So, it might not be a case of the right person wrong time; you might just be trying to romanticize something that actually wasn’t all that spectacular or magical. Take a look back at what you had with a more critical eye; after all, you must have broken up for a reason. If you were blinded by love, you can also ask your friends what they honestly thought of that relationship and person. They should have a clearer perspective.
- What’s meant to be will be. I firmly believe that what is truly meant for you will find a way back into your life. Maybe they’ll happen to be standing in front of you in the queue in Starbucks a few years down the line, you’ll get talking, and things will work out. If you are destined to be together, life finds a way to provide the opportunity to try again.
- You still have to work for it. The premise of right person wrong time is based on how neither of you were ready for each other, or maybe life circumstances got in the way. So, it’s not that a few years or months will pass and all of a sudden, things will work out. You both need to have actively worked on yourselves or the things in your life that caused the strain in the first place in the meantime. If nothing has changed, you’re still going to be wrong for each other when you reconnect.
More things to consider when attributing a failed relationship to ‘right person wrong time’
- You might not know what you have until it’s gone. It’s easy to get too comfortable in relationships and stop putting in the effort or taking your partner’s efforts for granted. So, things aren’t going to work out if one of you isn’t ready to see what’s already there. You can’t change the past, but you can at least learn from it. If it’s the right person, then it won’t be too late to do it right.
- Allow yourself to heal. Time heals all wounds. After you’ve healed from a breakup, you might no longer feel they were the right person at the wrong time. Finally falling out of love brings a lot of clarity. I used to think someone was the right person at the wrong time or that we might not be meant for each other in this lifetime, but I don’t feel like that anymore.
- You shouldn’t waste time waiting either. You might feel like something is meant to be, but then life has other plans. So, don’t turn down opportunities or other people thinking it will take you further from that person, only to never get them in the end. There’s much more to life than romance, don’t waste it.
- There’s plenty of fish in the sea. Of course, you’re not going to find a clone of an ex, and you probably don’t want to if you’re hoping to get back together one day. Just know, there are options. You might meet someone who you have an even stronger connection with, or at the very least, have some fun dating.
- We might have multiple soulmates. Some people believe we have one soulmate, the one person on earth who is perfect for you. But, others believe we have multiple soulmates (many of whom appear in our lives as friends and family instead). So, if you feel like they were the right person at the wrong time, know they’re not the only one for you. There are other meaningful relationships in your life that are just as special.
