17 Seemingly Innocent Things That Sabotage Your Likeability

17 Seemingly Innocent Things That Sabotage Your Likeability

You probably think you’re a pretty cool person. You’re chill, have a solid sense of humor, and you treat the people you meet with kindness and consideration, no matter who they are. That’s great, but that’s only part of the picture. There are certain things you may be doing that aren’t just annoying people but actually destroying your chances of being well-liked. Here are a few bad habits to break if you’re guilty of them.

1. Constantly Checking Your Phone

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Sure, you’re just quickly checking your messages, but to other people, it can seem like you’re not present in the moment or interested in what they have to say. Remember, real connections are made when we’re present and attentive. So put that phone down and engage! When you give your undivided attention, you show respect and interest in what others have to say.

2. Not Making Eye Contact

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Eye contact can feel a bit intense, but avoiding it can make you seem disinterested or insincere. Don’t be afraid to meet people’s gaze. It’s a non-verbal way of saying, “I see you, and I’m listening.” Making eye contact can create a sense of connection and show that you’re actively engaged in the conversation. Just make sure not to stare too much — it gets a bit weird.

3. Interrupting People

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You might just be enthusiastic, but interrupting people all the time when they’re trying to speak can come off as disrespectful. Remember, good conversation is a two-way street. It’s as much about listening as it is about speaking. By patiently waiting your turn to speak, you demonstrate respect for others’ thoughts and opinions.

4. Neglecting Your Body Language

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Crossed arms, a furrowed brow, or a lack of smiles can unintentionally make you seem unapproachable. So relax those shoulders, uncross those arms, and let your body language be as friendly as you are. Positive body language can make you seem much more open and upbeat.

5. Being a One-Upper

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You might just want to relate to other people, but constantly one-upping their stories can make you seem self-centered. Remember, there’s room for everyone’s experiences and achievements in a conversation. By acknowledging other people’s experiences without trying to outdo them, you show respect and genuine interest in their lives.

6. Constantly Complaining

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Sure, everyone needs to vent sometimes, but constant negativity can bring everyone around you way down. Try to balance out the venting with positivity. After all, everyone loves a ray of sunshine! A positive attitude can uplift others and make you a more pleasant company.

7. Not Respecting Personal Space

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Leaning in too close or being touchy-feely might just be your way of connecting, but it can make others uncomfortable. Remember, personal space is important. Respect it. By respecting other people’s personal space, you show that you care about their comfort and boundaries.

8. Being Too Sarcastic

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A little sarcasm can be funny, but too much can come off as cynical or even mean. Remember, there’s a thin line between being witty and being hurtful. Balance is key. A balanced approach to humor can make you fun to be around without inadvertently offending other people.

9. Not Showing Appreciation

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Forgetting to say “thank you” or show appreciation can make you seem ungrateful, even if you don’t mean to. Remember, a little gratitude goes a long way in making people feel valued. By expressing genuine appreciation, you can reinforce positive interactions and make others feel good about their efforts.

10. Always Being in a Rush

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You might just be busy, but always being in a rush can make people feel like they’re not worth your time. Try to slow down and give people the attention they deserve — five minutes really won’t kill you. By taking the time to engage fully, you show that you value other people’s time and presence.

11. Constantly Talking About Yourself

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While it’s great to share about your life, dominating every conversation with your own stories can seem self-absorbed. Remember, conversations should be a mutual exchange. Taking a genuine interest in other people and asking about their experiences can make them feel valued and heard. Conversational narcissism is not a good look.

12. Not Being On Time

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You might not think much of being a few minutes late, but it can give the impression that you don’t value or respect people’s time. Punctuality shows respect and consideration, and it’s an absolute must. Being on time, or even a little early, can show that you’re reliable and considerate.

13. Over-Exaggerating

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While it can be tempting to embellish stories for effect, exaggerating can make you seem less trustworthy. Try to be a bit more authentic and down-to-earth in your interactions rather than playing everything up to seem dramatic or chaotic. Being genuine and truthful in your communication can improve your credibility and likeability.

14. Not Following Through

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Not keeping your word, even on small things, can make people question your reliability. Remember, trust is built on consistency. Following through on your promises, no matter how small, shows that you’re dependable and trustworthy.

15. Being Negative About Other People

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Casual gossip or negative comments about others can harm your likeability. It can make people wonder what you might be saying about them when they’re not around. Promoting positivity and speaking kindly about people encourages a more respectful and trustworthy environment.

16. Not Acknowledging Other People’s Ideas

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You may not always agree with everyone all the time, but dismissing their ideas outright can make you seem dismissive and belittling. Listening and acknowledging other people’s viewpoints, even when you disagree, shows respect and openness to perspectives other than your own.

17. Keeping a Cluttered Personal Space

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Whether it’s your workspace or your home, a cluttered environment can negatively impact others’ perceptions of you. Keeping your personal space clean and organized shows respect for shared environments. An organized personal space can reflect positively on your attention to detail and respect for shared environments.

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Jeff graduated from NYU with a degree in Political Science and moved to Australia for a year before eventually settling back in Brooklyn with his yellow lab, Sunny, and his girlfriend, Mia. He works in IT during the day and writes at night. In the future, he hopes to publish his own novel.
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