If He Seems Too Good To Be True, Watch Out — He Probably Is

You’ve met your perfect guy and he’s swept you off your feet, but are you sure he’s not a jerk? Sometimes guys who seem too perfect are too good to be true. Here’s why you should beware of them:

  1. No one is perfect. Everyone has flaws, but perfect guys have mastered how to hide them from view. The result is that after a while, they don’t feel like real people because they’re always keeping themselves at a distance. Flaws can be beautiful. These guys, though, should be mannequins because they don’t have any. They end up being lifeless and boring.
  2. What are they hiding? For someone to be so nice, so perfect and so charming, there has to be something brewing. Sometimes “perfect” guys have perfected the mask they wear to the world, but there’s often a hidden agenda going on, like trying to make you fall in love with them before they reveal their true selves.
  3. Hot guys can be problematic. The perfect guy tends to be really handsome, but this can be a problem. Guys who are very good looking are often riddled with issues, like craving attention or being cold with people because they’re too used to receiving attention and affection. Love has become something they can get easily and they get bored with it quickly.
  4. They’re arrogant. If you think he’s perfect and all your friends think he is, chances are you’re not the first people to think this. He’s probably been inundated with compliments, and they’ve very likely gone to his head.
  5. They don’t put in much effort. Sure, they’ll charm you in the beginning, but as time goes on, the Mr. Perfects of the world will expect you to do all the work. And why shouldn’t they? They’re so used to women craving them and bending over backward to please them. Ugh.
  6. Perfect in theory doesn’t always mean perfect in real life. He might have all the qualities that make him “perfect” on paper, but in real life, it could be a very different situation. You might end up bored AF because there’s no spark or you realize you wanted someone different. Perfect can lack excitement.
  7. Perfect guys disappoint you more. If you’ve put him on a pedestal, then when his flaws are revealed at a later stage, he’ll fall harder off that pedestal — and you’ll be even more crushed by your disappointment because you expected him to be so perfect.
  8. Nice guys try too hard. Guys who come across as perfect tend to be really nice. However, if they’re too nice, your warning bells should ring. Niceness can be used as a way to manipulate you into liking someone who really isn’t all that nice. It also comes across as desperate.
  9. They get clingy quickly. What’s the problem with a guy who seems to want to give you all his love and attention? It becomes clingy after a while, and perhaps you might fear that he’s coming on too strongly because he’s only after one thing.
  10. They could be mentally unstable. He seems to tell you just what you need to hear, whether it’s that your hair looks perfect or that you’re a great friend. He might even wax lyrical about you and sometimes it feels like he’s straight out of a romantic novel. Beware — one of the signs of a dangerous guy is a guy who’s overly poetic. Creepy AF!
  11. They’re overly accommodating because they want an ego stroke. Isn’t it refreshing to be with a guy who doesn’t mind meeting you on a day you prefer, who will travel far to meet with you and doesn’t mind you own a dog even though he’s allergic to them? Yeah, but if he’s too accommodating, a “yes” man, then he’s trying too hard to please you. He could be doing this to stroke his ego or get what he wants out of you.
  12. They don’t mind being fake AF. You mentioned how much you loved holidaying in Greece and a few days later your boyfriend says that Greece is one of his favorite places. You mentioned you loved a certain brand name on Facebook and the next thing you know, they’re talking about how cool it is. Um, what? They’re trying to create a connection so that you believe you’re soul mates or something. It’s dodgy. So if you and your partner seem too alike, it might not be a perfect relationship — you’re probably dating a perfect phony.
  13. They want to move too fast. The perfect guy can be intoxicating. You want to spend all your time with him and he wants to do the same. It feels like you’re meant to be together! The only problem is that if he’s suggested sex on the first date and going on holiday after the third date, things are moving way too fast. You need to cool your heels and really figure out what this guy’s up to because moving too fast usually results in a relationship that dies just as quickly. So much for a perfect love.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.