4 Sex Positions To Help Guys Last Longer In Bed

There’s nothing worse than being horny as hell and ready to go at it with your partner for hours, only to have him come way too early and leave you hanging. While no man wants to disappoint his lover, sometimes the sex is just too good and he can’t hold back any longer. However, it doesn’t have to be that way. The average sex session may only last just over 5 minutes (ugh!), but you could help him last longer by trying these four sex positions.


Have your partner lie on his back while you get on top and ride, rodeo style. The idea here is that you’ll be the one doing most of the movement while he won’t be able to move that much. As it turns out, this is key in helping guys last longer during sex, making cowgirl one of the best sex positions for the job. The added bonus here is that not only does he get to admire you from the comfort of his pillow, you get to be the one calling the shots and controlling the speed and rhythm. It’s a win-win.


This is a great option because spooning again limits the range of motion. There’s only so much thrusting and maneuvering he can do from behind you. That means he’ll be forced to slow down a bit and enjoy the process when you’re spooning. In addition to helping him maintain his erection longer during sex, it can also make the experience more sensual and romantic for you on the receiving end. There’s a time and a place to have a guy pounding away at you, but it’s also nice to try something a little more low-key at times.

The Lotus

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When it comes to methods that help men last longer, the lotus sex position should come pretty high up on the list. If you’re unfamiliar, this basically means sitting face-to-face with your legs wrapped around each other. While this does come with the ability for your partner to penetrate you more deeply, it does keep him from pulling a jackrabbit on you, meaning he’ll likely last longer. This is also a super sensual approach to sex, and it’s extra intimate giving that you’ll be staring into each other’s eyes. You’re going to want to try this more often!

Whichever is his least favorite

This might seem like bad advice, but hear me out. If there’s a position you try all the time because you know how much he loves it, change the record. The thing he knows and loves most is going to get him off in about .5 seconds. That’s a good thing in general, but not when you’re trying to keep him hard for as long as possible. That doesn’t mean you can’t ever do his favorite sex positions again, just that getting him to last longer means switching things up a bit. He’ll probably be just as pleased as you with the results.

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Jennifer has been the managing editor of Bolde since its launch in 2014. Before that, she was the founding editor of HelloGiggles and also worked as an entertainment writer for Bustle and Digital Spy. Her work has been published in Bon Appetit, Decider, Vanity Fair, The New York TImes, and many more.