8 Signs You Moved in Together Too Quickly

Moving in with a guy is a huge step, and to be fair, you can never really know if you’re ready for it or not until you take the plunge. Just because your relationship seems solid doesn’t mean that sharing a living space is going to come easy, and you need to be sure you’re prepared to cohabitate. If you’re not quite sure if living together is working out, here are some signs you may have jumped the gun a little too soon:

  1. You’re annoyed by every little thing he does. If you didn’t know about any of his annoying habits before you moved in together, it might mean that you could have spent a little more time just sleeping over before making it official. If his leaving his socks on the bathroom floor or not rinsing his beard hairs out of the bathroom sink have the power to ruin your day, it’s probably not going to work.
  2. The new setup is giving you anxiety. There are bound to be some adjustment periods no matter what — especially if you’re used to your own space — but overall, the experience should be an exciting one, not just an anxious one.
  3. You have different ideas about what living together means. Some people see moving in together as the next logical step before you get engaged, while other people see it more as a way to save money on rent. Make sure you know where he stands on the setup before actually making the move to avoid being caught off guard by his intentions.
  4. You feel like there isn’t room for you in his place. If moving in together felt more like you giving up most of your furniture and just trying to squeeze in at his place, the move might have been a little premature. He should be more than willing to make you feel at home if you’re going to be living there.
  5. Your relationship isn’t growing. Living together creates all kinds of real life challenges as well as fun times, and those experiences should push your relationship forward and make it stronger. Normally, going through things together will add layers and dimension to a relationship, even if it’s just deciding on a brand of toilet paper together, but if it’s stagnating, there could be a problem.
  6. You haven’t talked about money. Discussing finances isn’t always thrilling (especially when it comes to paying bills), but it’s one of those grown up things that needs to be dealt with in a living situation. Not only do you need to be on the same page about how the expenses are divided, but you need to make sure that you’re both financially healthy enough that no one will be surprised by the other’s ebbs and flows.
  7. You’re still thinking about other people. Any unfinished business with other guys isn’t going to vanish the second you decide to choose one by moving in together. It’s a good sign you might be rushing things if you you’re not totally sure that he’s actually the guy for you.
  8. You’re feeling serious regret. There’s a difference between feeling nostalgic and feeling like you made a mistake. If you’re feeling like you made the wrong decision, you might have. There’s no shame in that, as long as you continue to follow your instincts.
Kate Ferguson is a Los Angeles local and freelance writer for a variety of blog and magazine genres. When she's not writing, the UC Davis graduate is focused on pursuits of the entertainment industry, spin class, and hot sauce. Look for article links, updates, (and the occasional joke) on Twitter @KateFerg or @WriterKateFerg, or check out her personal blog ThatsRandomKate.blogspot.com