Why Women With High Standards Make The Best Girlfriends

Navigating the world of love as a woman with high standards can be frustrating. When so many people come along who don’t meet your expectations, you might start to feel like you’ll never find the person for you. That’s because women like this are catches themselves. They’re confident, self-respecting, and patient. No matter how difficult it feels trying to find love when you don’t want to just settle, know that you’ll make the best girlfriend when the right one does come along. Don’t believe me? Here’s some proof.

  1. She’ll bring out the best version of her partner. A woman with high standards will bring out the best version of her partner. Why? She won’t settle for anything less. That’s not to say that she’ll be intolerant or cruel when her partner isn’t perfect. After all, we’re all human! But she will encourage her partner to do the best they can. That might be in relation to a career, their health or just kicking life goals in general.
  2. She’ll also hold herself to a high standard. Typically, women who have high standards also expect the best from themselves. It’s unlikely that a woman with high standards will be fine with mediocrity in her own life—she’ll usually be a high achiever with her sights sets on real quality. That goes for all areas of her life, from her health to her relationships.
  3. She’ll appreciate her partner because she might not date as frequently. Generally speaking, women with high standards don’t date as frequently as other women. That’s because they find it hard to find potential dates. The pool of people who fit what might be considered “high standards” is much smaller than the other dating pools. Although this might mean that she’s not as experienced, it’s likely to make her appreciate the person she does date more often. If she pursues high standards, then she’ll know how hard they are to find. And when she does find them, she’ll be over the moon.
  4. There won’t be as much competition. As mentioned, when a woman has high standards that she won’t negotiate, there are often fewer potential love interests for her to consider. From the perspective of her partner, that means that there’s also less competition! A lot of competition probably doesn’t make a shred of difference to someone in a committed, happy relationship. But this can make a partner feel more secure within the relationship if they have doubts.
  5. She’ll know what she wants. Women with high standards tend to know what they want. Sometimes, they have an innate understanding of what they crave in life. Other times, they’ve had to trudge through the dating world and learn first-hand what they never want to experience again (guilty). Either way, they know what their standards are and what they’re looking for. That can be comforting for a partner to know. Being with someone who has no idea what they want can be stressful and confusing.
  6. She’ll be patient. Women who have high standards often have to be very patient. It’s hardly ever that they meet a potential love interest who has what they’re looking for. And since they’re not typically ones to just settle just because they feel lonely, they tend to spend a lot of time waiting to find the right partner. By the time they do find someone and get into a relationship, they’ve developed serious patience.
  7. Her partner will know where they stand. If women are willing to hold their dates to high standards, then there’s a good chance they’re also willing to openly communicate those standards. A woman with standards isn’t the type to suffer fools easily, or put up with behavior she deems unacceptable. Although this can seem harsh, at least her partners will always know where they stand. They’ll know what’s acceptable and what’s not. She’s less likely to send mixed messages because she’s open about her wants and needs.
  8. She’ll have self-respect. When women have high standards, they also tend to have a certain amount of self-respect. That’s where high standards come from! They understand their worth and are only willing to be with someone who meets their level. Typically, they don’t suffer from major insecurity issues which can lead to stressful relationship dramas, such as belittling, neediness, or jealousy. While everyone deals with insecurity to some extent, a woman with high standards is self-assured enough to only accept what she deserves.
  9. Her partner will know she’s not settling. There’s a certain pride that comes with being in a relationship with a woman who has high standards. She doesn’t settle for just anyone, so her partner never has to wonder how she really feels about them. They can take comfort in the fact that she’s not just settling because she thinks she can’t get any better. She only dates people—and stays in long-term relationships with people—who meet her standards.
Vanessa Locampo is an Aussie writer who’s equally obsessed with YA fiction and pasta. Her time is divided between writing all the things, reading all the things, listening to Queen, and bopping her cat on the nose. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing and has written for sites including Hotsprings.co and Discovering Montana, and currently works as an editor at Glam. You can keep up with her on Instagram @vanessaellewrites.