When it comes to dealing with manipulators and toxic people, enough is enough! You’re done with trying to please people or bite your tongue so you keep the peace instead of expressing what you don’t like. You deserve respect. Here are 10 signs that you’re standing up for yourself instead of taking other people’s BS, and it’s awesome.
1. You’ve Got Rock-Solid Boundaries In Place.
You don’t let people walk all over you and treat you like a doormat. You say “no” when something doesn’t suit you and you know what type of behavior you will – and won’t – tolerate from others. You’ll defend your city walls and make others know that they have to respect you or stop chatting with you. It’s up to them.
2. You Make Strong Eye Contact.
Eye contact is a type of non-verbal communication that enables you to engage with someone confidently, instead of coming across as insecure. You’ve nailed self-confidence, so making eye contact is your go-to move when expressing what you want and confronting people in a firm, but gentle way so they know you’re not backing down.
3. You Stop Apologizing For Everything.
Instead of apologizing for everything, even if you’re not in the wrong, which can make you come across as lacking confidence and self-worth, you only apologize when you’ve done something bad. You won’t apologize for expressing your needs or expressing your opinions – and why should you?
4. You Say “No” If It’s Inconvenient.
It’s easy to fall into the trap of feeling guilty when saying “no” to someone’s request, especially if they’re asking you for a big favor. But, you know yourself and what’s in your heart. You know your self-worth doesn’t diminish if you can’t jump through hoops for others. You won’t put yourself at a disadvantage to make someone else happy. It’s that simple.
5. You Don’t Take On Other’s Drama.
If someone is trying to vent and offload their drama on your doorstep, you’ll help them out but you won’t take on their issues. This is because you’re strong and know how to engage in self-care when required. You need to look after yourself, and this is what prevents you from taking other people’s drama on board.
6. You Don’t Rely On Other People’s Opinions.
Instead of letting what other people say about you define who you are, you know that you have to focus on yourself. What you think about yourself is what matters the most, from how you style your hair to what career path you choose. It’s up to you, and you refuse to give your power to other people. Their thoughts and opinions are not your rulebook!
7. You Avoid Time Wasters.
When a toxic person rocks up and wants access into your life, you don’t allow yourself to get sucked in. You know what you’re about and what your beliefs are, and you won’t compromise on that. People can spot your no-BS vibes from miles away, which is why manipulators won’t even try their luck at getting with you.
8. You’re Unafraid To Speak Your Mind.
If your boyfriend upsets you or your friend gives you a snide remark, you’re not going to take it. You’ll express that you don’t like what they’ve done and calmly explain why it hurts you. This enables you to shut down mean behaviors immediately so they don’t build resentment – or repeat themselves in the future. You know you’ve got to teach people how to treat you.
9. You Delete People If They Don’t Text Back.
You’re the type of person who’ll make an effort to connect with someone and build a relationship, but you’ll bounce at the first whiff of them not wanting to reciprocate. You’re not here to let a lazy partner coast through, or a flaky friend take advantage of your kindness. If they’re not meeting you halfway, then you’re pulling out of the game.
10. You Don’t Let Peer Pressure Get To You.
It doesn’t matter if all your friends are doing multiple shots or chain-smoking or whatever. If you’re not in the mood to join in, you won’t be swayed. You know that “no” is a complete answer which doesn’t require further explanation. So, you won’t feel like you have to follow your friends to gain their approval or feel like part of the gang. You ride along according to your own rules, which is awesome.
11. You Refuse To Settle.
Since you’re not looking to people-please and you know what you want, you won’t allow yourself to settle. Whether it’s an unhappy relationship, a non-committal friendship, or a boring job, you won’t go along with it if it makes you miserable. It’s time to kick it out of your life! You value yourself too much for lowering your standards. The bottom line: you know you deserve better and will fight for it!
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