15 Signs You’re Not As Open-Minded As You Think You Are

You like to think you’re open-minded — non-judgmental, accepting of all types of people, opinions, preferences, etc. However, are you a bit delulu and kidding yourself? If you exhibit these behaviors in your day-to-day life, you’re probably not as open-minded as you think you are.

1. You struggle to listen to opinions you don’t agree with.

So, you think you’re open-minded, but when someone has a different opinion, you zone out or get defensive. It’s not that you mean to shut them down; it’s just hard to entertain ideas that clash with yours. True open-mindedness means actively listening and considering other viewpoints, even if you disagree. If you find yourself interrupting or dismissing others without really hearing them out, it might be a sign to reassess. Remember, understanding doesn’t always mean agreeing, but it does mean respecting the diversity of thought.

2. You avoid new experiences like the plague.

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You like to stick to what you know and are comfortable with, which is totally fine, but it might also mean you’re not as open to new experiences as you think. Open-mindedness isn’t just about thoughts and opinions; it’s also about being willing to try new things. Whether it’s a different cuisine, a new hobby, or a unique travel destination, venturing out of your comfort zone is a big part of being open-minded. If the thought of straying from your usual routine feels unsettling, it might be time to mix things up a bit.

3. You’re reluctant to ask questions.

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If you don’t ask questions for fear of looking ignorant or because you think you already know the answers, you might be more closed-minded than you realize. Asking questions is a key part of being open-minded. It shows a willingness to learn and understand more deeply. Embracing curiosity, even in subjects you’re familiar with, can lead to greater knowledge and open-mindedness.

4. You judge other people over silly things.

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Catching yourself making snap judgments about people or their lifestyles? That’s a red flag. It’s easy to make assumptions based on our own beliefs and experiences. But being open-minded means giving people the benefit of the doubt and not labeling them right off the bat. It’s about understanding that everyone’s journey is different, and there’s no one ‘right’ way to live. If you’re quick to label or stereotype, it might be time to take a step back and reflect.

5. You gravitate towards people who agree with you.

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Surrounding yourself with people who only share your views and opinions might feel comfortable, but it doesn’t help broaden your horizons. Open-mindedness thrives in diverse environments. If you’re always in echo chambers where everyone agrees with you, it’s hard to grow or see things from a different perspective. Try engaging with folks who have different backgrounds, experiences, and opinions. It can be eye-opening and enriching.

6. You’re just not open to feedback.

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Open-minded people are usually pretty good at receiving feedback. But if the mere thought of someone critiquing your work or ideas makes you tense up, it might be a sign. Being open-minded means being open to constructive criticism and using it to improve. If you find yourself getting defensive or dismissive about feedback, it could be a sign that your mind is more closed than you thought. Remember, feedback is not about personal attacks; it’s about growth and learning.

7. Your beliefs haven’t changed in years.

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Having core beliefs is great, but if they haven’t evolved or been challenged in years, it might indicate a closed mind. Life experiences and new information should shape and refine your beliefs. If you’re holding onto ideas just because they’re familiar, rather than because they still resonate with you, it might be time to reevaluate. Open-mindedness is about being flexible and adaptable in your thinking.

8. You immediately dismiss things you don’t understand.

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If something doesn’t make sense to you right away, and you just shrug it off as silly or irrelevant, that’s a bit closed-minded. Open-mindedness involves giving new concepts and ideas a fair chance, even if they don’t click immediately. It’s about the willingness to delve deeper, rather than just scratching the surface. Remember, some concepts need time to be fully understood and appreciated. Dismissing them outright means missing out on potentially enlightening insights.

9. You rarely change your routine.

Sticking to the same routine every day might be comfortable, but it doesn’t leave much room for open-minded exploration. If the thought of changing up your daily habits feels unsettling, it might mean you’re more set in your ways than you think. Being open-minded is about being adaptable and flexible, not just in thought but also in action. Try adding something new to your routine, no matter how small, and see how it feels.

10. You feel uncomfortable with different cultures.

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Feeling uneasy around or resistant to cultural practices different from your own is a sign of a closed mind. Open-mindedness includes embracing and appreciating diversity in cultures and lifestyles. It’s about celebrating the differences rather than feeling threatened by them. Engaging with and learning about different cultures can be incredibly enriching and eye-opening.

11. You’re quick to shut down debates.

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If you find yourself ending discussions abruptly when they don’t align with your views, it could be a sign of closed-mindedness. Open-minded people are comfortable in engaging in healthy debates and discussions, even when they challenge their own beliefs. It’s about the journey of the conversation, not just enforcing your point of view. Engaging in meaningful dialogue, even with differing opinions, is a hallmark of an open-minded person.

12. You say “that’s just how I am” a lot.

Using this phrase as a shield against change or different perspectives is a sign of inflexibility. While it’s important to know and accept yourself, using it as an excuse to avoid growth or new experiences limits open-mindedness. Being open-minded means being willing to change aspects of yourself that no longer serve you or others well.

13. You feel attacked whenever you’re challenged.

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Feeling personally attacked when your ideas or beliefs are challenged is another indication of a closed mind. Open-minded people can separate themselves from their beliefs and ideas, understanding that being challenged is not a personal attack. It’s about being secure enough in yourself to entertain and discuss different viewpoints without feeling threatened.

14. You make decisions quickly and often without thinking.

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Making snap decisions without considering all angles or alternative options can be a trait of a closed-minded individual. Open-mindedness involves taking the time to weigh different perspectives before making a decision. It’s about being thorough and considerate in your decision-making process, not just going with the first or easiest option.

15. You often feel bored.

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Feeling frequently bored might indicate a lack of open-mindedness in seeking and trying new experiences or interests. Open-minded individuals often find excitement in learning and exploring. If you’re feeling bored, it might be a cue to step out of your comfort zone and try something different. Open-mindedness can lead to discovering passions and interests you never knew you had.

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Piper Ryan is a NYC-based writer and matchmaker who works to bring millennials who are sick of dating apps and the bar scene together in an organic and efficient way. To date, she's paired up more than 120 couples, many of whom have gone on to get married. Her work has been highlighted in The New York Times, Time Out New York, The Cut, and many more.

In addition to runnnig her own business, Piper is passionate about charity work, advocating for vulnerable women and children in her local area and across the country. She is currently working on her first book, a non-fiction collection of stories focusing on female empowerment.
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