If He Does These 12 Things On Social Media, He’s Not “The One”

What we do on social media matters, especially when it comes to our relationships. A good boyfriend knows how to act on any platform, so if he’s doing any of these things online, he has to go.

  1. He doesn’t unfriend his exes. I don’t care if they dated for a hundred years or if their relationship ended on good terms, his ex-girlfriend needs to be removed from his friends list. There’s no reason for them to still be chummy on Instagram. I mean, c’mon! If your boyfriend doesn’t feel the need to delete his past love on social media, there’s a reason. He’s either not over her or he just likes staying up to date with her life—both are clear signs he’s not for you.
  2. He posts sexy selfies. Who’s he showing off for?! You see his body every day (sometimes multiple times a day), so why is he posting half-naked pictures of himself on Instagram? Seems like he’s trying to impress someone that isn’t you. Maybe that ex-girlfriend he’s not unfollowing? That doesn’t sound like appropriate boyfriend behavior to me, especially if he takes it a step further with a cheeky caption.
  3. He trolls people’s accounts. If your boyfriend writes negative comments on anyone’s account, whether it’s a celebrity or an ex-friend, he’s definitely not “The One” and you should report him to the social media police. Being rude to people online is disgusting and it’s not an attractive quality. Even if he says he’s “just kidding,” it’s unacceptable behavior. Bullying is never OK—dump him!
  4. He argues his opinions on Facebook. People who argue in the comment section of Facebook are just looking for attention. Maybe I’m painting with a broad brush here, but I just don’t understand why Facebook is the platform to argue with strangers over politically charged or controversial posts. Does your boyfriend go out of his way to post something that’ll piss people off just so he can stir the pot? Boy, bye. He’s immature and silly, and those are just horrible traits.
  5. He doesn’t like your posts. Your boyfriend should be your biggest cheerleader and he should be liking ALL your social media pictures pretty much the second they’re posted. He’s on the phone all the time, isn’t he? Yes! There’s nothing more annoying than posting a picture specifically to get a “beautiful” comment from your boyfriend only for him to completely ignore it. Now that’s definitely not appropriate boyfriend behavior!
  6. He spends too much time scrolling through his feed. I’m not saying he needs to be staring into your eyes every second you’re together, but when you’re talking (even if you’re not saying anything incredibly important), he should be looking at you! If he spends more time staring at his Twitter feed than into your beautiful eyes, he’s not giving you the respect and attention you deserve!
  7. He doesn’t post pictures of you. I’m guilty of this one, but it’s not because I want to hide my relationship status. It’s because I always look like literal garbage whenever someone takes a picture of me and the person I’m dating. If that’s the reason he doesn’t have you on his feed, I’m going to give him a pass… as long as you pop up on his stories and maybe even his bio. Do you, or is there ZERO trace that you even exist?
  8. He’s a totally different person on social media. On social media, he’s the picture perfect boyfriend. He’s always throwing praise your way and congratulating you on the smallest of things. In person, however, he doesn’t act like that. He never tells you face to face how happy he is to have you, which might mean he’s all show! He’s more into people knowing he’s in a relationship than anything else.
  9. He checks Instagram before responding to you. Once or twice is no big deal, but if your boyfriend has a habit of checking social media before responding to your calls or texts, there’s a problem. It’s one thing to forget to send a text back, it’s another to choose not to send a text back but then post two minutes worth of content on his Instastory.
  10. He posts “party” pictures. We’re a little too old to be posting drunk photos of ourselves on social media, don’t you think? Besides the fact that future employers (or current employers) could potentially see those photos, it’s just in bad taste. Your boyfriend should know that. If he still chooses to post, it might be a sign he’s a little immature and isn’t taking his future seriously enough—and that includes you. Ditch the kid!
  11. He double taps on scantily clad photos of other women. You know that “friend” your boyfriend has who LOVES posting bikini pictures (even in December)? She’s a nice girl and you don’t feel threatened by her, but that doesn’t mean your boyfriend has the right to like all of her half-naked pictures. It’s also disrespectful of him to do that to you. You’re his girlfriend!
  12. He posts without your permission. Does your boyfriend post pictures of you without your approval? Oh no! Go ahead and give him the Worst Boyfriend Award for that one! He should understand the importance of asking you whether or not you like a picture of yourself BEFORE exposing it to the world?! He’s either not a good listener or he doesn’t give a crap. Take your pick.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.