There’s nothing wrong with believing in fate, but that doesn’t mean you should use it as an excuse for why you’re still single and haven’t found “The One” despite feeling like you’re putting yourself out there on the reg. When it comes to finding your forever person, here are a few little things you can do to help push fate along.
- Despite how tempting it can be, don’t let dating get you down. When you’re ready to find yourself the person you’ve been waiting for, the worst thing you can do is sit around moping when the guy you thought was it for you didn’t call you back. Don’t let doubt and disappointment get in your way. Remember that you’re amazing and worthy of so much more—and when you find it, all the BS will have been worth it. You’ve got this.
- Leave your baggage behind. When your perfect person comes along, you’re going to want to be ready to offer him just as much as he’ll offer you. You can’t do that if you’re carrying baggage from past relationships. Do yourself a favor and throw away the gift the guy who cheated on you gave you and stop texting that good for nothing ex of yours back. Park that baggage and make room in your life for all the good that’s coming!
- Set some serious standards. Just because you feel ready for a relationship doesn’t mean you should settle for any guy who strolls your way. Make a mental note of what you want and don’t want in your guy and set some standards. When you’re wearing rose-colored glasses while on the lookout for love, sometimes the wrong guy can look like “The One” when he’s really anything but. Setting some standards will help you weed out the wrong guys from THE guy.
- Get off your butt and get out more. If you’re looking for the real thing, you’re probably getting a little bit sick of the drunk Saturday nights at the bar and getting home at 4 a.m. The single life has been fun but you’re ready for the next step. Just remember to still go out and whatever enjoy doing. Don’t hole yourself up in your apartment, sitting around in your pajamas with a tub of ice cream and some rom-com on TV. That’s never helped anyone find love. Maybe skip the bars and join a book club or go to a concert or something—you never know who you might meet there.
- Be your best self. This is a pretty obvious one but it’s amazing how looking for love can actually impact your morale and self-esteem. You’re amazing and just because you haven’t yet met your forever person doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. Be positive, keep smiling, and strive to do everything with passion. Someone is bound to notice that and they’ll be falling in love with you in no time.
- Be honest about what you want from day one. It’s important to be open and honest about what you want in a relationship. This isn’t the time to shrug when your friends ask you if you’re wanting a relationship. If you’re ready to meet that forever person, be proud and open about it. Be honest with your friends and your family. Hell, be honest with the guy who asks if you’re looking for anything serious. You are, so don’t pretend you’re OK with anything less. Don’t fool yourself! You owe yourself more than that.
- Take some chances even if they scare you. It’s time to revisit your expectations of love and take a few chances. Maybe throw a few more hints at the guy you’ve been crushing on for the last few months. Coy may be sexy but being shy never gets you what you want. Find the balance between the two and use it to your advantage. Stop letting fate take the driver’s seat and jump in there to take some control of your love life. You deserve to steer your relationships wherever you want them to go.
- Fill your days with things that fulfill you. There’s a difference between being ready to meet “The One” and waiting around for love. Don’t wait around. Time is precious and these are the best days of your life. Get out there and fill your days up to the brim with things that you love doing and people you love spending time with. The key to finding love is to surround yourself with it. Do that and you’ll be in a much better place to welcome love when it comes knocking at your door!
- Don’t dwell on it. You may be the queen of overthinking, but don’t let finding love turn into something that stresses you out. That takes the fun out of it. When you’re out there taking some chances and enjoying yourself, try to just live in the moment and don’t stress about the little things. Don’t overanalyze texts or gestures or comments trying to figure out if he’s your dream dude. If it feels right, go with the flow.
- Have a little faith. A little faith goes a long way, but say goodbye to the days where you put all your faith into fate and destiny to help you meet your prince charming. Instead, have a little faith in yourself and in love. It just might surprise you.
