How Strong Women Avoid Getting Stuck In Terrible Relationships

How Strong Women Avoid Getting Stuck In Terrible Relationships ©iStock/Jacob Ammentorp Lund

Strong women are a force to be reckoned with, and we’re not about to let a bad relationship tear us down. If you’ve ever wondered how we avoid the dating crap, here’s the scoop:

  1. We walk away. Being able to walk away from terrible guys and relationships is the first key to crafting a crap-free life. This doesn’t mean commitment issues — we’re not afraid to commit when it’s right — but this does mean being unwilling to waste time on a guy’s lame excuses. We know better than to wait around for a dude to get his act together. We just don’t have the time for it.
  2. We go for grown men in the first place. This is a supremely important part of our dating strategy — we’ve got to pick the right kind of guy to spend time with in the first place. Of course, this isn’t a guarantee it’ll work out, but it’s a step in the right direction and it’s a great way to start out.
  3. We know what we want. As in, we know we want a guy who’s willing to do the work a relationship requires. This doesn’t mean we’ve got unreachable standards; we just know what we’re looking for, so we keep a sharp eye out. When someone fits the bill, that’s when we take a chance — we’re not attracted to just anyone.
  4. We refuse to play games. You might say that we’re allergic to the BS. We’re just not going to engage on that level. Why not? Well, at a certain point, we grew past the urge to dabble in games — we’re not going to spend precious energy on even a second of it.
  5. We don’t indulge in denial. Denial keeps you stuck in a terrible situation far longer than you need to be. “Maybe he’ll change” or “Yeah, but that was last time — this one will be different” are classic phases of denial that keep women in relationships far longer than we need to be. It’s not productive to let denial take control of the narrative, and we’ve learned that.
  6. We’ve got a support network. This is a really good thing for any woman to have in everyday life, but it’s especially handy when it comes to avoiding bad relationships. A good support network will let you know when your relationship is starting to look like a dumpster fire, and we’ll call that out. It’s something we depend on.
  7. We’re not going to waste our time. That’s a common theme in all of these traits, isn’t it? We’re not waiting around for a man to adapt to our timetable. We’ve got our own live stogether, so why shouldn’t we expect the same from someone else? Being unwilling to waste our time or anyone else’s is a developed trait to avoid the BS.
  8. We’re comfortable with confrontation. We understand that while confrontation can feel scary, it’s often necessary to facilitate healthy relationships. We’ll face down confrontation with ease because we know it’s the only way to make a relationship better.
  9. We know what we deserve. It’s the key to being a strong woman — knowing what you’re worth. We’re not wasting time because we know we’re worth more, and that’s while you’ll never find one of us stuck in a relationship rut.
Becca Rose is a writer with high hopes for her student loan debt. She's a musician and aspiring novelist, but don't ask her to write poetry, because she's terrible at it. She has written for HelloGiggles, The Toast, The Huffington Post, and more. You can find her on Twitter @bookbeaut