7 Surprising Erogenous Zones That Will Totally Transform Your Sex Life

When it comes to sex, exploring different parts of your partner’s body and your own can up the ante when it comes to experiencing more pleasure (and potentially mind-blowing orgasms). While the traditional erogenous zones like the lips, neck, and inner thighs are well-known, there are many surprising areas of the body that can be equally as hot. If you’ve never given much thought or attention to any of these places, I highly recommend you change that the next time you head to the bedroom.

  1. Earlobes Don’t underestimate the sensual power of the earlobes. Gently nibbling or kissing this delicate area can send shivers down your partner’s spine. Experiment with light breaths or whispering a bit of dirty talk. Because the ears are highly sensitive to touch and sound, doing this heightens arousal and creates a unique sense of intimacy. Don’t feel embarrassed to say the freakiest, sexiest stuff that pops into your head before you start the kissing and licking. You’ll drive your partner absolutely wild.
  2. Scalp Yes, this is one of the more surprising and unconventional erogenous zones, but if you’ve ever nearly lost your mind when someone played with your hair or while getting your hair washed at the salon, you know how true it is. Massaging or lightly scratching your partner’s scalp can be a deeply relaxing and erotic experience. The scalp is packed with nerve endings that respond to touch, making it feel really f**king good when stimulated. Incorporating scalp massages into your foreplay or intimate moments can promote a sense of closeness and relaxation, setting the stage for some intense sex.
  3. Inner Arm Moving away from the more obvious erogenous zones a bit, the inner arm is an area often overlooked but highly sensitive to touch. Softly trailing your fingers along the inside of your partner’s arm, from their wrist to their armpit, can really get their pulse racing and heighten anticipation. This area is ideal for teasing and building up the sexual tension before exploring other parts of their body. By the time you get to the “good stuff,” they’ll be begging for more.
  4. Feet The feet are a treasure trove of nerve endings and can offer immense pleasure when given proper attention. Foot massages, using sensual oils or lotions, can help relax your partner and build a strong connection. Additionally, toe-sucking (if you’re into that) or light caresses along the arches can create a unique and intimate experience when you want to try something different. Hey, don’t knock it ’til you try it!
  5. Lower Back While the back may not be an entirely surprising or unconventional erogenous zone, the lower back often goes unnoticed. It’s a sensual hot spot because it’s so close to the butt and the spine, both of which are sensitive in their own ways. Gentle strokes, kisses, or even light spanks in this region can get both of you going and be a part of foreplay that’s well-worth exploring.
  6. Nape of the Neck The neck is often talked about when the topic of erogenous zones comes up, but most people are talking about the crook of the neck under the earlobes, and that’s not what we’re about. Instead, hit up the nape of the neck, which is where the hairline meets the skin. There are tons of nerve endings there, so soft kisses, nibbles, or running your fingers along that area can send tingles throughout your partner’s body. Paying attention to this often overlooked erogenous zone can intensify the overall pleasure and enhance the intimacy between you. It’s also a really tender place and feels very affectionate, so if you’re having sex with someone you truly love, utilize this area to show them some affection.

Exploring unconventional and surprising erogenous zones can be a great way to spice up your sex life if things are getting a bit blah (and hey, it happens to the best of us). Of course, it’s important to remember that communication and consent are key to ensuring that both partners are comfortable and enjoying the experience.

Jennifer Still is a writer and editor with more than 10 years of experience. The managing editor of Bolde, she has bylines in Vanity Fair, Business Insider, The New York Times, Glamour, Bon Appetit, and many more. You can follow her on Twitter @jenniferlstill