No one’s going to argue with the fact that dating sucks. It does! It seems almost impossible to have a fun night with a stranger who doesn’t do something weird or completely inappropriate, let alone form a real connection. However, there’s some dating etiquette we could all do with following. For instance, in 2023, I feel like it’s fair that we go dutch on a first date. We’ll pay for our own drinks and food and then there’s no power imbalance and no one “owes” anyone anything. Simple enough, but not everyone abides by that. TikToker Tasia Taderera, for instance, believes that men should be ponying up the cash to wine and dine her, and she was ready to say she’s “done with men” because a recent date only bought her one drink.
In a clip filmed by a friend, Taderera claimed that men were “disgusting,” ranting: “I’m done with men. I don’t want to do this.” The friend taking the video explains that Tasia “went on a date for two hours and [only got] one drink.”
Taderera then gestures to herself, implying that she’s hot enough to be treated like a queen. “Look at me. Look at me!” she says. “Take me to dinner. Wine and dine! Don’t try to get all of this information out of me over one drink that you don’t want to pay for, and I’m looking this great. I just don’t know. I can’t with them. They just don’t get it.”
Oddly enough, her friend agreed, saying, “Boys, do better on dates. Do better.”
The two women then decide that they should start sending notes to men they go out with that give them feedback so they can change their ways in future.
“You know what? We should start giving reviews. We should start sending out messages, like, ‘So this is how you did,’ so that they get better,” they claim. “Because at the end of the day, they’d be doing the bare minimum and wanting to be praised for it, period.”
While some people in the comments agreed with Tasia Taderera and her friend, others pointed out that she came across as incredibly entitled. After all, why should your appearance have anything to do with how well you’re treated on a date? And why does that mean you should have everything paid for you?
There’s nothing wrong with a guy wanting to buy you a drink, but maybe be willing to pay your own way. If the guy eventually becomes your boyfriend, he can “wine and dine” you then.